Dating again

[Cj777]

Hi so about three months ago, me and my partner split up, he ended it for what I believe to me stupid reasons and not the complete truth, I have been so so upset about the whole thing and found it really hard.
He wanted to stay friends, and has been texting, calling, video calling daily ever since, he is paying some of my bills my insists he does not want a relationship. I now feel stupid, used and worthless but also like I am craving attention

So I decided to go online dating, well I just find it so weird and every time I message anyone I feel kind of guilty like I shouldn't be, or just freaked out when they start getting flirty? I don't know whether I am just not ready.

Any advice ??

Seems that you are not ready. What's the rush? Take some time out. Be kind to yourself. Do other things that make you happy like hobbies, seeing friends. You'll be ready when you are ready but it's clearly not now.

Do you need to date again so soon? Doesn’t sound like you are ready?

You’re not ready. Take time out to be comfortable on your own and when you are in right place, you’ll feel totally different

Love yourself before venturing out.

I think you are all right, I am definitely not ready feel like things are still raw, I am still so emotional would probably end up crying on a date lol!!! Poor bloke wouldn't know what's going on.

Thanks everyone, will just focus on me for a little while longer

You’re not ready. Online dating can be brutal. Get over your break up and heal first. Strongly advise going no contact with your ex.

I am struggling with the no contact thing, he is always starting the messages etc and he owes me quite alot of money so I guess I am scared that if I don't keep some sort of contact I won't get the money, then I will really struggle.

If he was a good friend, he'd pay you the money. I'd just remember that.