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Wedding- Estranged Sibling

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ZekeZeke · 19/09/2023 16:58

My sister (50) is getting married next year.We are a large family, 7 siblings and were all very close.Until! My brother got married 3 years ago, he and my SIL fell out with everyone (things were said that cannot be unsaid) around 2 years ago.

Myself and my sister speak to my brother and SIL but everyone else in my family (my mother and other sisters) don't.SO, my sister is getting married next year. She hasn't told my brother. She was going through numbers and didn't mention him.

I asked if she was inviting my brother and her response was if he makes amends with the family beforehand he can go.The thing is, it's not all his/SIL fault.

Things were said on both sides. My mother and sisters said some horrible things.I don't want to get in the middle of it but I don't think it's fair that he is being left out.

OP posts:
YouHoooo · 19/09/2023 17:00

MYOB. It’s your sisters wedding and her relationship with your brother.

Its not up to you to make it fair, it would be shit of you to meddle.

gannett · 19/09/2023 17:10

Does your brother even want to go? I wouldn't want to go to the wedding of someone I was estranged from.

I suspect your sister is happy not to have him there and he's happy not to go. You're the one whose happiness seems to depend on them both being there.

And given the fall-out, I think amends should absolutely be made before they're both at the same social event again. No point getting together and playing happy families if they haven't even made up.

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ZekeZeke · 19/09/2023 17:26

gannett · 19/09/2023 17:10

Does your brother even want to go? I wouldn't want to go to the wedding of someone I was estranged from.

I suspect your sister is happy not to have him there and he's happy not to go. You're the one whose happiness seems to depend on them both being there.

And given the fall-out, I think amends should absolutely be made before they're both at the same social event again. No point getting together and playing happy families if they haven't even made up.

He isn't estranged from my sister who is getting married.
He is estranged from the rest of the family (my mother and other siblings).

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Whataretheodds · 19/09/2023 17:28

It's your sister's wedding. She gets to choose who she invites from her family.

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