Like he does not know me..strangers now

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I posted the other day saying one comment led to no talking and being ignored. This is now 3 weeks ongoing. He is treating me like a stranger. Been living together 5 years. How can anyone do that?

Someone who's emotionally and psychologically abusive and or narcissistic can, it's one of the favourite tools in the box to make you feel worthless. It's silent treatment, soul destroying, disgusting behavior that makes you on edge and doubt yourself as being the problem.

What's happening are you both still living together now or has he vanished?

You need to get out before he destroys your self esteem.

This is unfortunately very common narcissistic behaviour.

Is this the first time he's used the silent treatment to control you?

I would consider leaving unless he gets therapy.

Look, even if you said something absolutely awful, I wouldn't expect a grown adult to just stop talking to you. It smells like a 'punisment' for daring to say something he didn't like. To train you never to dare to do it again.

If you had actually said something terrible, surely he would just break up?

You need to take back your power op. End the relationship. Im sorry he isn't who you thought he was. But really, life's too short to waste on mentally abusive wankers. Time for him to go.

Thank you.
I asked him why he thought we were having less sex...cue no talking. Then I took my two kids to the cinema and did not take his...apparently I 'showed my true colours' at that point and he is treating me like a stranger...in our home ffs

So he thinks you're having less sex, you perhaps don't agree and questioned it. It is as simple and ridiculous as that, it can be anything I found.

He feels slighted and then to rub salt in the wound you didn't involve his children. He would have taken that as you doing it on purpose.

What I found is they want you to chase, to beg and plead into talking again because it's insufferable, he wants you to apologize. If you do though, it works and it's used again and more frequently and length of time depends on the perceived slight.

Sounds like he's maybe been cheating and thought you'd maybe guessed? Hense the extreme overreaction to even the mere mention that sex had dwindled (because he's shagging someone else...or a porn addict).

Or is it that you've been wanting less sex with him? And he thinks what you've said is your way of saying its because of something he is doing...or not doing. Eg: because you do all the childcare, even for his kids and so, are too tired for sex (and how DARE you imply he 'the almighty', is being shit....even though well, he's being shit xD)

And the whole cinema thing is being used to DARVO you (deny, attack, reverse the victim and offender).

Asked him last night....wjhat do you want to do....Not sure....are we going to talk....I will see....I nearly laughed in his face!!

I'd just stop wasting my own time op and tell him YOU have decided the relationship is over.

Unless you enjoy this, leave.

It doesn't matter why he does it. Whatever his reason, it's unacceptable to you.

Isn't it?

This will be impacting on the kids too.
It might be best to leave.

Ugh, nothing less attractive than a manchild. Draw a line under this ridiculous behaviour and dump him today.

are we going to talk....I will see
You can "see" yourself, in your own time frame. You have to look after your children, including removing them from stressful situations like this. Sorry that you have got yourself a dud.