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Friendly with another woman

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Tennyy · 18/09/2023 23:09

My boyfriend goes to car boot sales to get a bargain and resell. There is a woman called Becky who goes. One time I was there me, my partner and another guy was talking. Becky saw my boyfriend came over and stood right between me and him and she purposely had her back towards me. I walked off and so did his mate and then my boyfriend ended the conversation then.

Becky has done it another time ignored me even though my boyfriend said he was there with me. Ever since if I see her I just walk off as it is clear she does not want to be inclusive.

Yesterday I was not able to go to the car boot as I was out with some friends. My boyfriend told me on a video call tonight he saw her at the car boot and went over. He kept calling her Bex. He said he was annoyed an old man came to her stall and he could not speak to her properly. He said the man was lonely, a bit selfish this man just wants company. I don't know why he was so desperate to speak to her. He used to call her Becky before and has shortened it Bex. He added her on Instagram recently too.

I don't want to be taken for a fool.

OP posts:
PurpleButterflyWings · 18/09/2023 23:12

If you have no kids and are not married, LTB. He's taking you for a mug. He is either having an affair with her already, or he wants one.

Flowers Sorry...

Opentooffers · 18/09/2023 23:39

She is marking her turf '.Her turf' - now she may be chancing her luck in a very cheeky brash way, or, she has reason to feel she has some claim. Pretty impossible to know the difference. However, you've seen her tactics, and maybe someone else has, so your BF will have seen them - have you mentioned your concerns to him?
It's not great that he has mentionitis, he might be going as far as massaging his ego with her. It's up to you to decide to duck out - as it shows sub-par respect - or give some hometruths to him and base it on his reaction.

MsDogLady · 19/09/2023 09:08

@Tennyy, something illicit has been going on with your BF and Becky. They’ve been flirting or more. She is marking her territory when she stands in between you and BF and when she blanks you. He sees how she disrespects you, but nevertheless wants her attention and tells you all about it so you’ll do the pick-me dance.

He sounds like a cake eater who wants you and Becky to compete for him. Remove yourself from his ego triangle and move on.

baileys6904 · 19/09/2023 09:36

Oh fgs. Please don't let the previous posters whip you up int to a frenzy of ' he's shagging his way round the car booty'

Is he allowed female friends? This doesn't usually involve nakedness. Is your relationship good? Is there back story to this?

I would stop walk g off when you see her, perhaps she's had a couple of off days, perhaps she hadn't recognised u, perhaps she was just being a bitch, but you're not giving the opportunity of moving on.

Personally Id make a point of saying hello and get talking to her. Reminds her you're about if nothing else. If you trust your OH, ( which you don't mention any other issues) Is not be worried this far

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