Does anyone cringe when you look back at your wedding photos?

[Martacus]

Whenever I come across photos of my wedding, or think about it, I cringe so much. It's a really strange feeling that's hard to describe, but I know it's not a positive feeling.

Is this at all common for others? Including for those who are happy in their marriages?

I'm so sorry about your loss @mondaytosunday I'm glad you can look back on the happy wedding memories.

@ShimmyingThroughTheChaos
the photographer got really stuck in to documenting the weirdness of the event and emphasized the pandemic angle.

It sounds like your photographer was bonkers!

Yes, they are awful and it was not enjoyable. I do have an album gathering dust up in the loft somewhere but definitely none on display!

I loved that my Grandma looked like the Queen Mum, and my Grandad who looked very proud. There is a beautiful photo of me and my Dad and love seeing my Mum who is no longer here. My DH and I looked like the typical 80's bride and groom and are still happily together after 34 years but I no longer resemble the person I was then. I am much happier in my alternative skin these days.

DH looked lovely and really young! I wore a second hand dress which I hated. We had fuck all money. I was swollen due to pregnancy and lots of the people we invited were total pricks. I like the odd picture of myself and DH where we don't look pained or awkward and uncomfortable. The DCs sometimes get the album out from under the bed and have a good laugh at our expense. Also the photographers were a pair of tossers who didn't do group shots and left early AND it rained.

Yes i’m happily (95% of the time) married. been married 16 years but i was 6 stone heavier so i hate looking back and don’t have any out. My boobs were massive & theres some bad angles & i had a fake tan done before it(also had a trial & it looked fine) but i think i look orange in them.

alot of the people in them are now dead so occasionally i look back at pictures of those in them & cringe & i haven’t been able to watch my dvd fully either. If we make it 25 years i want a renewal and new dress lol

I refused to have a professional photographer and simply asked guests at our small wedding to let us look through theirs and had some printed.
It was thirty years ago so the choice of venue was registry officer or church and I refused to get married in church. The RO was a hideously ugly council building so we briefly went out after the service and took photos in a local ornate garden on a cliff top overlooking the sea.
Considering how they came about, the photos I have of our day are stunningly beautiful, everyone always comments on one particular shot taken by SIL. I'm glad we have some photos but happy with the choice we made. The staged formal ones that take hours are not something I'd ever choose.

I'm happy in my marriage but definitely cringe at my wedding day so I don't think it's reflective of the state of your relationship.

yesssss I can’t explain why, it’s nothing to do with how I look and I’m still happily married, I just always skip past the photos on my phone as I find them cringe to look at, it’s so bizarre.

I cringe at how much older I look today. Seriously though, we have wedding photos on display in our bedroom and lounge, and I love them.

We've got two up, both taken by friends, not in big frames but in a collage of family photos. One is a candid shot, we are both laughing like loons as someone throws confetti.

The other is me and my siblings, we are rarely together, and it's a really nice shot.

The actual wedding album, we've been married 12 years and looked at it probably twice.

I love the 2 candid shots, the actual wedding album I'm strangely indifferent to. Possibly because I didn't really want a professional photographer. WE don't have kids together who'll ever look at it and I'm not sure who else would be bothered.

Hate my wedding photos.
I was thinner then, about the only good bit of them!
I'm also not photogenic and the dress was a Debenhams sale 80s meringue affair.

No but I refused to have any soppy cringey photos, hardly any posed ones and nothing ridiculous so they’re just nice photos of happy people having a nice time.

Yes but it's mostly because my il-laws behaved like morons and tried to ruin the day and my photographer was a pervert (think lots of pictures where the angle of the camera is pointed downwards to catch cleavage and many, many, many pictures of one of my nieces eating and sucking on a lolly pop). He was so busy perving he missed the speeches. We sacked him halfway through the wedding and I ended up taking 50% of my own wedding photos (thankfully I'm good with a camera and I'd leant my sister my good DSLR camera for the day so it was on hand for me to use).

Nice to see fellow divorcees that still smile at their wedding albums. I do too, wistfully really, but it was a great day and we looked so happy.

I cringe.

I looked like a man in drag.

My make up artist was hungover. My face shone with moisture and was not at all "dewy" as she put it.

The hairdresser was amateur in her work and totally uninterested.

I found out later that stbxh was yelling at people to order them about during the photos and everyone thought he was a twat.

We have one biggish one (10x12 I think) which we had professionally framed. The rest are under the bed gathering dust

They're not particularly cringy, we didn't have loads of staged pics taken, but I'm not a fan of myself so I don't like looking at them! I just happen to like the framed one!