I have been with BH for 5 years now, he has two adult children (now) and I zero. When we first met he told me about them and after a few months of "dating" they wanted to meet me. Over the years BH always gets a bit secretive about them, he always tells me stories of their childhood but then never says we he's arranged something with them, or they they are coming over or what's going on in their lives - and yes I do ask because I know they are important to him. Both isn't an issue as I can tolerate them and occasionally enjoy their company. But its the fact that it feels I'm being ignored or ambushed in a way (hoping this makes sense). We were heading out to dinner and all week he'd be talking about who would be there. I was actually looking forward to an adult only evening. On the way in, he said he'd need to text his DD1 incase she forgot. When I said you didn't tell me she was coming, his response, oh didn't I? Then five minutes later he said DD2 would also be there. I refused to go to dinner as I told him that he has to stop keeping things from me - more on principle than anything else. I waited in town and met him afterwards (as he left early telling the rest I wasn't well) - I told him that his actions were making me not want to be around his children or be interested in them. Anytime I arrange something he "forgets" that he later agrees something with one of them and then I'm left out. He told me its because after he spilt from their mother he hasn't had a serious relationship that includes the children and he sometimes forgets. I have asked him for now, not to tell me anything about them, if they turn up they turn up. I know this sounds petty and childish and if you have survived until now - I thank you xx