My boyfriend is a struggler. We live in separate homes and he's a great bloke but has alot of mental health problems. It runs heavily in his family.
Hes poor with money. Hich is One of the main reasons our relationship is still 2 homes. He earns great money. Blows it all. Doesn't save. The nature of his job means he's in and out of work and I've told him again and again to put x amount away each week..
Anyway hes not currently got work lined up. He's been down all week. I was at him the morning after to get his arse down the job center and sign on/ ring around for anyone needing him..he snapped that it was only 9am and he didn't need me starting. All week he's not tried because he's down. I can see it in his face. It's so frustrating because he's not bring productive.
Anyway rents due tomorrow and get only just applied for a hardship loan today. A charity I've contacted said it will take 3 days for the rent..
He's phoned me this afternoon saying there's no point in life. He's got nothing to live for. He's cracking up again.
I've been in tears trying to tell him what he needs to do to help himself.
I am exhausted by this. I dont know how else to help him.
He's just complained we never do anything together yet he spends all his money so we can't. He's also said he doesn't want me today because I'm annoying him.
What causes this behaviour in a man in his 40s.