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I feel so broken & betrayed

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cookiesmummy · 18/09/2023 03:24

Hi can I please have some advice as I feel so broken. When I was younger I was sexually abused by my uncle. After some time I picked up the courage to tell my older brother but all he did was make a joke of it and put his hands up my dress. I stopped him and got away and again he tried it on a few times when I was older about 15 years. Now I am near 50 years of age and discovered that my best friend from school has been having an affair with my brother for 15 months and is planning on leaving her husband. She has 3 small girls age 5 and twins of 8yrs. I would feel so bad if my brother would do or try anything with them girls so I told my friend about my brother. But I have heard from my sister that she asked my friend what was she going to do and she said nothing that she didn't believe me or what I said about my brother. I cannot believe that she says she doesn't believe me..and this was after my sister assured her our uncle did abuse me because he abused her too. Not only that but she told my sister she has been sleeping with my brother on and off since my wedding night ...I was 28years then...I feel like I can't take much more betrayal...I am still living with my husband as he cannot afford to move out but we have split up 18 months ago because he kept recording me secretly when sleeping and getting dressed and has done for yearsas i first caught him videoing me when I was pregnant and that was 15 years ago. He has been sleeping on couch now for 18 months. But it is my friend's betrayal I am really struggling with as now I feel so alone. Sorry for lengthy post. Thank you for taking time to read .

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SofiYol · 18/09/2023 10:52

I am so sorry you’re going through all this now, and for everything you’ve suffered in the past.

You have warned your “friend”, that really is all you can do.

Have you thought about counselling to help process the abuse? I assume you have your own reasons why you haven’t reported it, so I won’t suggest that, but I really think professional support would benefit you. You deserve to be happy too x

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