Help me get over crush on female teacher

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Help all, I (40F) have a big crush on my DS’ female teacher. I am hoping that posting this is the first step of getting over it, similarly to how talking and sharing commonly eases stress and tension. This is my first female crush and it was quite unexpected. I openly acknowledge if I find female celebrities pretty, but I have never had a crush on them. I first met her online to discuss my DS, and thought she was pretty, but was not interested at all. But then met her in person and, bam!, I was instantly drawn to her personality. Now I constantly think about her and it’s such a distraction. Please help me … I want my focus to be on my kid when it comes to his schooling and not teacher crushes!

how long has this happened ?

Are you in a relationship at the moment?

It started around the holidays last year. It’s such an odd feeling and can’t discuss it with anyone. The logical side of me knows that it will never happen seeing it would be such a complicated relationship. But the emotional side is ridiculously head over heels. I am trying to find ways not to see her at all during pickups and drop-offs, but it is almost impossible.

Yes, but it is more of a friendship type of relationship. Too many things have happened and my feelings have not been the same for a while now.

This is my first female crush and it was quite unexpected

Not sure whether you mean - have you previously preferred men?

Ime these sudden crushes can come from admiring how good someone is at their job. That could be where this stems from.

I'm sure you don't need telling this but you really mustn't try to date your DS's teacher. If she's not interested then she might reasonably report it to pastoral lead and cause you all kinds of bother and embarrassment.

Similar happened to me when I turned 40. I’m in a same sex relationship now. I’m not and never was with the person I had the crush on, similar situation so it was not something that would have happened. But it was as if it just switched me and I’m not sexually into men any more.

I don't have experience with changing orientation in a crush, but as someone who is prone to inappropriate crushes in general and gets one every few years my advice would be just wait it out. Don't suppress thoughts about her but don't indulge the crush either by lingering on thoughts about her/finding excuses to contact her etc. It will pass in time. Don't judge yourself or worry about it either! It's part of human life

You haven't mentioned your romantic interests whether you're into males or females.

Being a heterosexual, it happened to me after the age of 30 but it was just a puppy love. Took me a good while to figure it out though. I remembered how I felt with my granny when I was a child and that was it, the same emotion.

She may be creeped out, I must warn you. I thought lesbians were disgusting when I was a teenager. Controversial but true.