just been and signed my divorce papers

[TLV]

felt quite empty inside, to think that 5yrs ago I was starting a new life with someone I loved and whom I thought loved me, now its probably going to be 2/3mths before the decree absolute.

TVL

So sorry you are feeling down - dont think of this as the end but as a new beginning. You are doing so well - stay strong.

he is ringing me tonight to discuss meeting up again, do I tell him I've been??

hiya tlv.

we are in the same boat although you are further down the line than me, i will have to start divorce proceedings soon.

ive been divorced before so understand how you are feeling, that empty feeling, but it will go and you can look on this as a new start.

give yourself time though to grieve.

i would tell xdh that you have been but thats only my opinion.

jen
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i just feel abit hopeless at the moment she was abit gobsmacked when I mentioned that he had been coming back (this was in reference to me defending myself from a letter i'd received from his solicitor)

I feel very angry with him at the moment too that he is putting us all through the shite because he couldn't admit that marriages are hard work and require effort when problems arise and instead he walks away

You dont have to talk to him tonight - why not just say it has been a bad day and you would like some time alone to gather your thoughts - he is the one wanting this and so he had better used to you calling the shots where your life is concerned.

Sounds as if he wants to be in your life on his terms - dont talk until you are ready.

Keep strong. You will get through this and you are doing brilliantly.

thanks all

yes HW you are right, he wants it all his way, well i hope when he gets it it comes back to smack him in the face!