We've met for the first time after a year...

[justasmallglassofwater]

We went out together for two and a half years.
We had a life changing accident together where one of us came out of it worse than the other.
He became depressed and withdrawn for good reason and I carried the can so to speak. I felt like his carer as time went on and depleted myself entirely.
I couldn't cope anymore and finished up the relationship.
He got better, started back working again and his life became better. I also got counselling and made some changes.
We are both late forties , divorced with kids.
I was angry and sad after the accident. I felt robbed. I felt uncared for and that was that.
He was devastated , promised me the world but I knew he was not in the right place.
We met today and all the feelings are still there. The connection is there and he's done the work as have I.
I'm nervous about the future.
I believe we could be happy but there's so much water under the bridge.
Neither of us want to go through the heartbreak of it again but if there's a chance of happiness, would we be mad not to give it a shot again?

If it were me I would give it a chance. You have both worked on yourselves and the feelings are still there, only thing I would worry about is if there would be resentment towards you during an argument but you only live once and you don’t know if you don’t try? Also would you massively regret not giving it a chance later on?

This is it... I'm
Worried I would regret it. There is a lot of love there and we both were very honest about our needs and wants and also regrets and mistakes on both sides of course.

2.5 years together isn’t long, how much of that was good before the unfortunate accident?

is there any remaining resentment on either side?

It was very good but not without the odd argument.
No resentment today. We both respected where we were coming from.
Understood that it was very painful for both of us for different reasons

I think your reason for splitting and not being together is one you can possibly move forward from. You'd need to be brutally honest with each other though.

I’d absolutely give it a go. But start from where you are. Making this a new relationship, not a continuation of the old one. Hope it works out for you both.

I think you have to at least explore this again! Be mindful though to go at a slow pace and step by step! Evaluate where you are and what you are happy with. Best of luck

I think you should give it a try, I would

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Going against the grain here, I think a proper relationship is 'in sickness and in health'. If my partner left me after a serious accident I wouldn't ever trust them again to get me through the hard times.
Imagine (god forbid!) there is a difficult diagnosis in the future - how can you be sure you, or he, won't run for the hills?

I think if the foundations are still there I would give it a go. Maybe with some couples counselling. If you feel it in your gut then do it. Life is short!

Hi @justasmallglassofwater
I would give the relationship another chance. All the best xx

I think that couples counselling would be necessary .
I know it seems that I left him in the lurch when he was so unwell but at that time,? I was just depleted and began to get sick myself.
He was unwilling at that time to try to help himself despite so much intervention.