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LolaM42 · 17/09/2023 13:51

I had a fling with someone who lives quite far away. Anyway yesterday I asked if he fancied meeting up in a town half way between us.
His response was when lol.
Now what am I supposed to make of that ? Is he messing about?

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Colourfulponderings · 17/09/2023 13:53

It’s a bizarre response, but I do have a friend who puts lol at the end of EVERY message. It’s a habit, could it be that and he simply means ‘when?’

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LolaM42 · 17/09/2023 13:54

And I sent him a selfie and he replied with 2 😍but no comment

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SleepingStandingUp · 17/09/2023 13:55

Well if you want to meet him, just reply with a date. Surely easiest way to find out if he's serious about meeting up or not?

beatrix1234 · 17/09/2023 13:58

What is he 16? Emotional maturity levels -84. Stop engaging, you've already shown interested in meeting again, ball is in his court, now it's his job to take the next step. If he comes with a day and a date that means he's interested so go for it, but I suspect his emotional maturity is going to stop him from such a massive decision. Continue looking for greener pastures, this one is too "yellow".

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LolaM42 · 17/09/2023 14:01

It was the lol part I couldn’t understand is he joking about when he asked when to meet up ?

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beatrix1234 · 17/09/2023 14:05

LolaM42 · 17/09/2023 14:01

It was the lol part I couldn’t understand is he joking about when he asked when to meet up ?

He's not joking, just immature, nervous and probably insecure. this is probably his way of expressing it. Again: greener pastures lay ahead.

CantFindTheBeat · 17/09/2023 14:15

Just be straight, OP.

"i'm free next week. How is Saturday in XYZ town for lunch/drinks/dinner?"

What's hard about that?

HopeFloatsAbove · 17/09/2023 14:25

Could it be that he has found himself in a new relationship, and his LOL is like him saying dammit would but cant?

he is not replying properly to you as he does not want to rock the new boat

XMissPlacedX · 17/09/2023 14:35

My mum always puts 'lol' and still thinks it means 'lots of love', even though I've told her it doesn't 🤦‍♀️

Could he maybe think it means that ?

Cheeesus · 17/09/2023 14:37

He means you need to tell him when.

Justanything86 · 17/09/2023 14:37

To me that sounds like he's eager, as I'm tell me when and I'll be there. Are people reading the same thing?

comedownwithme · 17/09/2023 14:38

How does he usually message? This isn't the first time so people saying some use lol a lot, does he?

floofbag · 17/09/2023 14:39

He was being fun, but asking you when?

AprQ · 17/09/2023 14:41

LolaM42 · 17/09/2023 14:01

It was the lol part I couldn’t understand is he joking about when he asked when to meet up ?

Some people use lol at the end of most messages. Doesn’t seem like he’s messaging about at all

thatwassociopathic · 17/09/2023 15:17

You'll need to ask him really. What's with the lol? You seem well matched!

kidsonthemoon · 17/09/2023 15:46

I find that in general if a guy is keen, there is absolutely no mistaking it. The fact that he left 2 😍 emojis but didn't comment, would make me think he's actually not that interested.I reckon you'd do well to leave it, he knows the score it's up to him

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