Growing old alone.

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Any one else in their 50's and 60's with no partner and about to face retirement alone?
I'm quite happy about it because I'm financially sorted and own my own home.
I have complex PTSD and can't live with a man or anyone really without getting panic attacks and increased anxiety, I've been divorced twice. It is what it is, I have friends and hobbies.
I didn't think when I was young that my life would be like this. I had visions of a house in the country, an aga and some children. The old fashioned kind of life that my aunts and uncles and grandparents had.
It's sad that all the men I met were complete no hopers, or abusers, or just plain lazy and uncaring.
But although I am sorted and have a lovely DS it's expensive living on your own. It's much cheaper with two. I am close to my DS but mindful he has his own life.
I intend working part time until 75 which I can do under my contract.
Any other singles got plans for their retirement?

I think it’s pretty hard to find someone who you relish the idea of being old together. I think having your own independence at this time and you sound very self sufficient is not a bad place to be ? I would try to look at positives at this point for sure

I am currently going through a separation after my OH of 20years decided I'm no longer the one and has been having an affair with a work colleague.
I'm coming to terms with being 50, single and how to look forward to a retirement without my companion.
I'm thinking once the kids are old enough I might get an overland camper and travel the world.
First I have to sort out my head and heart after rejection and betrayal. I'm hoping happier times are on the horizon once the grey clouds lift. Every day is a struggle just now.

I’m 54 and been single about 3 years and honestly I can never imagine living with a man again.
I love my own space, peace and freedom. I’m open to a relationship but it would have to be pretty flexible and casual - not as in FWB but just both having our own lives.

I know everyone different and I’ve got a really good social life so maybe without that I’d feel different

I’m nearly 61, divorced and lost my DF (final parent ☹️) very recently. It’s a real watershed in my life and I’m excited about it! My plan is to continue working (self-employed) to 67 and possibly, very part-time, beyond, as I love my work. I’m dithering about downsizing now I’m just about to finally pay off the mortgage. I’m planning a few trips with my adult DC and (very excitingly) alone. I put quite a lot of effort into old and new friendships and have a pretty good social life as a result. I adore my dog. I go to the gym at least twice a week and I’m serious about investing in my health as much as I can. I have a very part-time partner who lives separately and I believe this will continue. I have a lodger but they’re leaving soon so I can test out what it’s like to not have anyone to notice if I’ve come home or not! That’s the thing that worries me. I guess all in all I’m thinking of it as ‘growing old free’ rather than ‘growing old alone’.

I'm in my 50s now and single, last relationship was about 7 years ago. I absolutely want to be single in retirement. I don't do well with having someone around all the time so I know I couldn't live with anyone with both of us not working. I like travelling alone and not having to consider what someone else wants to be doing. I find myself to be good company! I do think having a pet makes a difference. It gives you that feeling of someone to come home to.

Of course sometimes I think it would be nice to have someone for occasional company, but I would want it to be maybe once a month or so and not many men would be ok with that I think! I don't want a FWB as that is very sex based and I'd want it to be more than that, just at a low frequency.

We're older and have a number of single friends mostly male. If your happy on your own it's fine. The main issue they have is sickness, one had to have an op under general anaesthetics and was expected to have someone with him overnight afterwards which meant asking around and getting a friend over. Another was taken to hospital and needed people to look after his pets as he hadn't had time to organise anything. So really it's just the small things that bothered them. ( Single person supplements)

A house in the country, children and an Aga don't stop you being alone in old age. 🙂

I'm 60, one ds (15) and will retire when DS goes to university (or whatever else he chooses). I have a house and a pension, can evict my own spiders and have just never found a man who was trustworthy or kind.

So I'm looking forward to retiring. I'll see DS occasionally, I'll probably move further from London & downsize, I run and cycle, I shall have a six month rest and then see what I fancy doing. Might get myself a part time job or maybe just travel & enjoy myself. I'm fairly sociable and happy to volunteer for stuff. I can't wait.

Two years 9 months to go. 😊

I'm 54, lucky enough to work part time. Have a small mortgage free bungalow in a village.
My son is 28 and very self sufficient, living about an hour away. My mum lives 2 doors down and I have a dog.
I love my simple single life. Have a handful of close friends, but am happy in my own company. I holiday in sunnier climes twice a year, and long may this all continue!!!
My last relationship was 7yrs ago, we parted amicably, and still see each other for lunch and dog walks, but I have no interest in another relationship... my sex drive fell through the floor during menopause, and to be honest, I don't really miss it.

I'm 64 and been on my own for a long time. I will only get state pension when I retire, so looking at a bleak future on my own.

Though it would be nice to have someone to share the load with, I very much doubt that I could ever live with anyone again, I am very much used to my independence.

Yes me and I'm very much looking forward to it.
No one else around to get on my nerves, not having to look after anyone else but myself. I have kept myself really healthy and fit and am still very active.
I couldn't think of anything worse than being stuck with someone else twenty four seven. I work alongside women who have come back to work because their retired husband are driving them up the wall, some of my friends have ended up full time carers. I know what l would prefer.

The potential of having to be a carer to a partner is the main thing that puts me off. It doesn't happen in all cases I know and I also know I'm just as likely to need caring for. But the fact that the risk is there at all is enough for me. I know I couldn't hack it. Maybe it's easier/different after a long marriage but that wouldn't be the case for me. So I'd just want to end the relationship and end up looking and feeling heartless!

Maybe have a think about a like minded/circumstances lodger. It might take a few tries to get the right fit, but it could work out as companionship, extra income, and knowing there is someone to call upon if needed. Just a suggestion, which you might view with horror!

Divorced for years and lived alone since then. In my late 60s and left work in 2021, but planning to go back to temping to boost my savings and pension. Also to move out of London to get a bit more space and a bit of a garden, do some travelling and maybe back to learning.

Yes me and I'm very much looking forward to it.
No one else around to get on my nerves, not having to look after anyone else but myself. I have kept myself really healthy and fit and am still very active.
I couldn't think of anything worse than being stuck with someone else twenty four seven

This is me as well. Not as fit as I could be but working on that. Def don't want someone around and turn into a nurse, thanks.