sad and tired....

[BINAH]

today as usually I was trying to teach my husband some english so he could deliver is homework, with all my care and patience.He started being abusive because the pencil was missing the rubber top so he just stuck it in my neck wich is bruised now.It is not the first time this hapens, I am just tired...
Just hearing everyday that i am a freak, that i am not normal, that i am unable to do anything, that i am dirty, all i do is cryiy that is all i do for him...
I don't have anyone here to support me and I feel really sad and bitter just wanr to sleep.It is my birthday and i just want to cry.

sorry for the lengh of the tread....

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LEAVE! NOW!

Oh shit, you poor poor girl. You do not have to live like this, you are not a freak and not dirty. Do you have any friends or family nearby who you can talk to and get support from? Someone will surely be along any minute with details of Women's Aid and such like, places where you can get help. Best of luck.

Binah am distraught by your post. He stuck the pencil in your neck and this isn't the first time

he is emotionally and physically bullying you - no wonder you are sad and tired

can you leave, is that an option for you? do you have somewhere to go for help/support

never apologise for length of thread please don't feel like you can't post for support on here

can you contact citizens advice? they should be able to give you some contact details for organisations which can give you support

sorry for what is happening, you sound like you'd be happier away from your dh.............

Happy Birthday Binah www.katcaverly.com/mt-static/archives/images/bday032.gif

I'm sorry that you dh is being so horrid to you. There are people who can help and support you and I'm sure there's lots of good advice here on mn about where to go and who to speak to - hope you find some help soon.

tHANK YPU ALL FOR ALL YOUR HELP AND SUPPORT.iT GETS REALLY ON MY NERVES BECAUSE i DON'T HAVE ANY RELATIVES OR FRIENDS IN U.K...aLL MY FAMILY IS IN PORTUGAL .i HAVE MY DAUGHTER WHO IS 3 YEARS OLD.i WILL TRY TO LOOK FOR AN ANSWER BUT i APPRECIATE ALL YOUR HELP AND SUPPORT.iT IS TOUGH BEING ON A FORIGNER COUNTRY AND FEEL SO ALONE...tHANKS TO YOU ALL FOR YOUR CARE AND PATIENCE.YOU MADE MY DAY SUNSHINE AGAIN....
bIG HUGS TO YOU ALL....

Binah. That is truly horrifying, he is an abuser.

Can you contact your family in Portugal for some help and support?

It is terrible that there is no immediate help for women in your situation.

is there any chance you can take your daughter with you back home, for a while at least?

Binah you don't have to put up with this you know. Is there any way you can get yourself and DD back to portugal or get help from your family over there?

Do you have your own income or any money you could save up to leave?

i WILL TRY TO GO BUT TO TRAVEL i NEED IS AUTHORIZATION AND HE WON'T GIVE IT TO ME.
i AM SAVING A BIT SO I CAN HAVE SOMETHING IF I SHALL LEAVE.i DO SOME TRANSLATIONS AND SOME WORK FROM HOME...

Have you spoken to your family in Portugal Binah?

Do you have your own passport?

Oh and

HAPPY BIRTHDAY

Happy Birthday

Please, please try and get some help, there are organisations that will help you, people here can find the links for you (I'm useless at those things)
This will only get worse not better!

I have travelled with my girls to Canada and all that was required for authorisation was a letter signed by DH. It accured to me at the time that they wouldn't have known if I had written the letter myself. There was no way they could have verified his signature.

It would be dangerous if he found out course, but by that time you'd be back home.

am confused why you would need authorisation when you are her mother - does she have her own passport or is she on yours - am not up on my portugese coming and going sorry

sarah has her own passport but they allways ask for the autorization made by the portuguese council when we arrive in portugal, specially now, since little madeleine disapeer.

I still don't understand, what if you weren't married or seperated? I travel with my kids all the time and don't require authorisation from my husband - its very strange.

Its maybe terrible of me to say it but if you're teaching him english could you get him to sign the authorisation without him realising what it was

sorry if that appears underhanded

the thing is it has to be done at the embassy or the consulate....
Only if in her birth certificate was stated that father was unknown then may be I would not need authorization.it is really anoying.

not sure then sorry - I think you definately need to seek some legal/professional advice though

This is terrible. You must make sure that you get away from this monster somehow. If not for yourself then for your daughter, if he doesn't hurt her eventually, then she may grow thinking it is normal for women to accept this abuse.

His evil comments are emotional abuse and lies. With violence on top of that it's not surprising how you're feeling.

Does he show any remorse for his actions or does he believe this is his right?

Please, please, please if you can't get away make sure you seek some advise and get support.

xxx

hi...sorry for the delay...he doesn't show remorse.just says that I donn't change, that is way he keeps on telling me off....