DH has so many good points, he’s a very gentle, kind, playful dad, but I do feel like we’re massively lacking consistency in parenting and it’s leading to problems.
So to give an example, our eldest had a dummy as a baby and became completely obsessed with it at around 10 months, to the point where he barely ate anything because he would take a mouthful of food then grab his dummy. I managed to wean him off it and got him to have it at night only, then I spent a few nights in hospital, came out and back to square one. I sent DH some links from the BBC tinyhappypeople about dummies and we actually worked together and were consistent in no dummy and it’s worked. If we could do that with everything we’d be great.
As it is though - I do think I probably have a tendency to come across as a bit control-freaky and know it all without really wanting or meaning to but I do find DH frustrating. It was my birthday recently and I had a box of chocolates out and DS has been munching his way through them. I DON’T mind this, they are out so everyone can share them but - not just before breakfast? Same with ice cream; DH will constantly suggest ice creams to DS (and never puts his bib on so he makes an unholy mess!) and it’s just - why? Fair enough as a special treat but I think DS would have junk all day if it was up to DH, ice cream and sweets and fruit shoots. I keep pleading with him not to but it’s always after the event. He also keeps opening crisps or eating processed meat in front of DS who then wants it as well. I don’t want to sound all anal here it’s just DS behaviour is a bit of a concern to me and I think poor diet might exacerbate it.
I know people say talk to him but how (I don’t mean I want those posts where people post a word for word speech, I don’t find those very helpful) but I mean advice on how to approach without sounding judgey or condescending or superior. I just want us to approach parenting from the same page.