Has a DH ever turned it around and stopped being boring?

[ParisMum001]

My DH is kind and reliable and I am very lucky, but I'm bored. I'm used to doing things like going out into nature, going to events and generally having a nice time outside of the flat. I do work from home though, which means I really need to. I'm sick of organising everything though.

My DH on the other hand mainly wants to chill at home, watch tv, clean, do the laundry, maybe go to the cinema.

I AM SO BORED.

I've told him and he says he wants to change but based on the past (2 years) and the present I have difficulty believing it and dont want to waste either of our times.

Has anyone on here every experienced a change in their DH, or witnessed this kind of transformation in relationships of friends? I do believe people can change, but its often after a major disappointment or life event. If I stay neither of those will happen.

He’s not going to change, why would he?

He’s happy the way he is, he’s just trying to get you off his back.

So you either accept it and build up your life outside, or you move on.

What it boils down to is that people can usually find a compromise if they want to.

I’d suggest saying that you’d like to organize a few outdoorsy activities for you both so he can give them a try. Explain that it’s really important to you and see what happens.

My DH also has an outdoor interest that I’m not especially interested in. I sometimes accompany him; other times he goes alone or with other people. You can usually find a way to make it work.

We do have other interests in common that we both enjoy though, it’s just this one hobby that I find abut boring, tbh. 😂

Id work on your own life outside of him. Find communities friends ect to explore with. Then find something he actually wants to do as a means of quality time with him

This.

Perhaps you are just not compatible 🙁

I do 80% of my activities with other people - maybe more.
My DH is happier at home, so he is at home mainly and I’m out doing things.

We still do things together here and there.

This morning I worked a couple of hours out of the house, met a friend for brunch for 4 hours, now he’s gone out for the evening. We’re both happy! 🙂

My husband is like this and I also WFH and need to get out at the weekends!

What works for us is that we each have a day of the weekend where we do what we want and the other person joins in. So I pick Sat and he picks Sun for example. He works in a stressful job with long hours so I do understand him wanting to chill at home, however I get so sick of the 4 walls I spend all week in.

Good luck OP, I hope you find a compromise that works for you. I go out and do a lot of things either with friends, on my own or with DC when they're not with their bio Dad.