My partner and I have been together for a few years, we live together and have a 1 year old. We do bicker quite a bit over silly things and I’m making a conscious effort to be happy and not let little things bother me and avoid arguments for our daughter. Today however, I was upstairs putting some laundry away, whilst gathering another pile of laundry and just generally going some household chores. My partner shouted my name and when I came downstairs he said ‘look she (our daughter) has spilt some tea so whoever left that there needs to sort it’. Essentially my dad had left half a cup of tea on the floor when visiting earlier that day. Because my daughter now spilt it he was said it was my responsibility to clean it up because my family member left it. I genuinely couldn't believe what I was hearing. I was in the middle of doing laundry (some of which was his) and he called me down to clear that up. When I questioned him he couldn’t believe I couldn’t see why he was angry. Am I missing something? Please tell me if I am because I want to try to see his point but I’m struggling. I spent all week (despite working part time) cleaning the house and keeping on top of things for him coming home from work (he works away). I made us breakfast this morning and washed his dishes and mine. I cleared his cup and glass that he used from upstairs and picked his dirty washing off the floor. This wasn’t my responsibility they were all his things but I did it anyway because you just help your partner out don’t you? It’s give and take. When I said I did this for him so couldn’t see why he couldn’t just clean up the tea he said it’s not the same. I just feel so low now. Advice appreciated.