Name changed for this.
Basically DH46 has been made redundant. He has received an enhanced package which meant after tax, we would be able to survive for about 18 months on this alone without accessing other savings. This has obviously been a big comfort, and he's already interviewing for other jobs. However the market in his industry is TOUGH and even if he gets another job soon, there's nothing to say he wouldnt face redundancy again in the near future.
I am working FT but not enough to support us.
DH has been taken financial advice, and has been told to put a substantial chunk into pension to avoid paying any tax. Whilst I can see this is sensible in the long term, it reduces our runway to 6 months and makes me feel very nervous.
On top of this, I don't have access to our savings pot (it's gone up and down over the years with building work, paying down mortgage etc but we've both contributed substantial sums, although DH more than me). We did have a joint offset account but since changing mortgage this has gone into DHs savings.
I hadn't really had an issue with this, but now we are in this situation I'm feeling quite nervous about not having access, and also that it doesn't feel like the decision about the redundancy pay is being made jointly.
I've tried to raise this with DH and he seems suspicious of why I want access. For full disclosure we were in a bad place last year and were in counselling, very neatly broke up. However we've worked on our relationship and are now in a better place.
A lot to unpick, but before I try to speak to DH again I'd like to know what others think is fair in this situation and how much sway I should have on the redundancy decision