Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Husband calls me names

6 replies

Eyeofthetiger30 · 15/09/2023 09:19

My husband calls me names when we argue. He has called me a nasty piece of work, evil, an idiot and many other names (I do not believe I am any of the names he calls me). He does so in front of our 10 month old son which I hate. He is destroying my self worth & speaking to me in such a disrespectful way. He is quite nice outside of arguments but he is so mean to me during arguments. I try my best never to attack his character when we argue and I never call him names even at my most angry / hurt or in response to his name calling - I do not want to stoop that low. I appreciate we need to work on healthy ways to argue but I don’t know what else we can do.

OP posts:
Foggyfoggyfoggy · 15/09/2023 09:22

You can divorce. There really isn't any other option. My ds saw /heard his df being abusive as a dc.. Still has anger issues and has therapy at 31...ex also got nc via court.. Next outburst ring the police. You need back up op.

Topseyt123 · 15/09/2023 09:42

Dump him. He won't change. This is behaviour he considers acceptable. You need to do it now while your child is still hopefully too young to pick up much on what their horrible father is doing, but that time is fleeting and won't last long.

roses321 · 15/09/2023 09:45

you don't believe it yet but give it time and you'll soon start believing everything he says. Leave.

adriftabroad · 15/09/2023 09:49

Its domestic (and child) abuse.

Foggyfoggyfoggy · 15/09/2023 10:21

So abused was I when I did leave ex I walked straight into another abusive relationship.. I felt so grateful to have a decent man I missed so many red flags. It really was the frying pan into the fire...

JustKen · 15/09/2023 10:26

It never changes. And it bleeds into the next generation. IME they say they've changed but when faced with the tiniest objection they revert to type.

Contact Women's Aid. They are good at helping you unravel your feelings and advise on aspects of behaviour. They'll help you figure out what to do next.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread