Should I keep no contact going?

[Twoyearson1]

I got great advice when I posted just two years ago when my ex told me he'd never loved me. It took me a long time to feel myself again after breakup and I'm now doing well. I didn't return to a hobby club we were both in but joined a new one and have settled in, although it was hard leaving other one - but I meet up with a couple of close friends separately. I'm enjoying new one immensely now.

Lately, however, I've bumped into a few people from old hobby club and they're encouraging me to return, saying enough time has passed etc., that it'd be good for me to return. However, I've been completely no contact with ex, haven't seen him - we are both 50, so not young ones - but I still really want nothing to do with him, but don't want those encouraging me to think I don't appreciate their friendship etc.

I'd appreciate any opinions - like, is it silly to keep no contact going at this stage?

What's the hobby? Would you have to interact with him?

I’d say it depends - I’d think of it as cost vs benefit situation. If seeing him would set you back and bring up bad feelings for you, would that be offset by the actual interest and the other people?

If you don't want to see him, don't. If you want to be friends with them, be friends with them.

The two things don't have to be linked.

It's a running club, so, yes, likely to have some interaction.

You're really enjoying the new club.

It seems to me a step backwards to return to the other club.

As for these people encouraging you, is it good for you to return or just convenient for them? If they're proper mates, surely seeing each other wouldn't be dependent on which club you go to. If they're just situational "mates" then I'd concentrate on your new circle.

I seem to remember your post. I think you hsve moved on OP, keep it up. If you want to keep in contact with these people, invite to your club! or see them separately

Everything you say makes sense. I am enjoying running with new one and it would be a step backwards. There's only a couple of people I'd describe as good friends and as I mentioned, I do still meet them... the others are acquaintances, but nice people, and I guess they feel I'm missing out by having left, even though they know I run with another club now.

Ex said some really hurtful things to me at the end, that's why I never stayed friends with him.