Rough spot or fallen out of love?

[septemberautumn]

Since our 1.5 yo was born I’ve changed. I am more irritable with DH, I’m the default parent as he works longer hours etc and I feel the load of it. This makes me a bit angry sometimes as I wish I could just go and do something and not have a major mental load like he can

Thinngs slowed down we didn’t have dates when DS was born of course, and I feel since then it’s hard for him to fully understand motherhood

he is happy to leave DS with either grandparents so we can have dates he’ll even say once a month. I think this is way too often and DS si really clinging to me now so I’m finding it more difficult to leave

i don’t feel like I don’t want to, I do. I have so many moments when I think “I love you” but sometimes I don’t like him I feel

I get snappy with him and so irritable and is it just because I take on more of the mental load. He helps where he can but like I say he works longer

Well he needs to do more, absolutely. He works full time and so do you parenting your son.

But going dates and spending time 1 on 1 is a way to try and ignite the spark. Your son is 1.5 years old, perfectly fine age to stay with grandparents (and he would enjoy it) for you two to go on a date.

Maybe not once a month, but once every few months. There's compromise. He needs to do more but you need to also put the effort in to spend some time one on one without your DC on an occasional basis.

Perfectly normal to resent him a bit when his life continues pretty much as before, but yours is curtailed. It's not fair.