Heartbroken.

[Heartbrokenagai]

abusive ex has moved on
he has a new gf and they’re going on their second holiday of the year
he wants to marry her apparently

meanwhile I was seeing a guy who I fell for his year and he stabbed me in the heart - made all kinds of promises then cheated on me
hes been seeing a woman

I’ve been dating again and it’s one bad date after the next

I’m a lovely nice attractive woman
And I feel utterly despondent

Your abusive ex will still be abusive - on every holiday.

The cheater will always be a cheater. His false promises are some other poor woman’s problem now.

Think of the bad dates as character building or serious preparation for the real deal. What doesn’t kill you makes you funnier.

Have a glass of wine, feel sorry for yourself for a short while and get back out there. Or don’t, whatever you need.

With love,

A lovely, attractive woman in the exact same boat when it comes to insanely shit dates. I’ll write a book one day..

Thank you for your lovely reply Birthdayblu and I hope you meet someone worthy of you one day x

I'd suggest you do some grieving. The more pathetic, the better, because when you're disappointed next time, you will appreciate yourself more and it will be easier to move on.

Many years ago, I read somewhere you only come to realise that crying after someone was time lost but when you don't go through this phase and suppress your feelings and move onto someone else too soon, it will be counterproductive.

Hi @Heartbrokenagai
Totally hear you about one bad date after another!
Don't give up though hun, the one is out there, i went through some really crappy heartbreaks and swiping on Tinder became like a full time job but eventually i got there and you will too xx ❤

You're having bad dates because you realise they aren't good enough or not what your looking for, your exes are less fussy, leave them to it, there's no rush for the right person even if it takes years.

I became Teflon over this. But actually when I think about it I let myself get through the other side of "lonely" to embracing my time on my own. Really comfortable in my own skin and company which does 2 things

1. it makes you not compromise for shit men
2. it lets you shrug off the shit dating as a bullet dodged.

Big hug to you OP I bet you are lovely.