Changing mind about work agreement

[Brokenagreement]

Self employed (business we started together pre dc)

The agreement was that when I had dc I’d go part time and dh full time till dd was in school and ds in nursery (the 15 hours) then we would switch over so I was full time and dh part time so he could do school runs etc and we wouldn’t need any wraparound care.

It’s all gone fine for the last few years. I mentioned today that dd is settling so well and asked about how we were going about switching roles and what jobs were coming up etc to be met with ‘no - we can’t get’ apparently clients need dh to see through their projects to completion and he’s not prepared to stick to our agreement and wants to delay it ‘for another year to 18 months ‘????
I don’t want to - we have spoken about it a lot and he’s nodded etc but now we are actually here he doesn’t want to stick to the agreement

And to add dc2 was very much dh idea and at that time I was concerned it would delay us switching back over and he promised it wouldn’t

I'm assuming more projects will come up in the next 18 months that he will be involved in, so that argument doesn't make sense.

When will he be able to leave and not be linked to a project?

He can at any point - he’s just trying to say it’s about clients ‘connecting’ with him and trusting him so he wants to continue, saying they trust him etc etc basically he likes how things are and doesn’t want to be doing majority of the admin etc and the childcare but it was fine for me to do it !!!

I would suggest looking at after school childcare you could both split drop offs and pick ups and maybe 3 days after school care .

it doesn’t sound like either of you want to be p/t