Advice needed communicating with an evil ex-partner

[rob38]

My ex-wife was abusive to both myself and my son. I was unable to show that in family court, and now have to co-parent with her. Her past actions towards my son in particular were evil. I communicate with her through email. I find communicating with her incredibly stressful, any advice on how to stay calm? Or third party services we could communicate through? Thank you

I feel you with this one. My ex wasn't evil but he was abusive and he turned pretty nasty when I left him. I used to get horrendous anxiety as soon as I saw a message from him. My therapist used to always tell me to delay reading anything and then always delay replying too - don't do anything in the heat of the moment. She also told me not to engage at all unless its a specific need for the children. Its taken me a long time to get to a point where I don't care what he says or thinks and I have no problem ignoring him now.