Just wondering if I am unusual for feeling this way. DH and I have a long history of ups and downs in our relationship. I've now realised he has narcissistic traits and can be passive aggressive, in between periods of being nice.
He left his job a few months ago as he was struggling with his mental health. He has now claimed on his sickness benefit insurance so will be off work for the foreseeable future. This will give us half his income, so worth my salary as well we can manage, but there won't be any extras for luxuries or savings. He is early 50s.
He spends all day relaxing, doing hobbies and listening to music. No housework apart from cooking and leaving the kitchen like a bombsite.
He is at home all the time - never goes out. I work from home three days a week and from the office one day a week. I feel so trapped and like I am losing my mind - he is always here, lying on the sofa or just around the place.
I have begged him to go and stay with family or friends or a b and b, just so I can get some space. However he just looked hurt and said that it was his house too, he has a right to be here.
I spend a lot of time in my bedroom feeling trapped (we have separate rooms due to his snoring) as somehow I find it difficult to be around his energy all the time.
We also have two teenage DC.
He is planning never to go back to work if the sickness insurance keeps paying out.
He barely talks to me and is just happy in his own world. When I have told him that I'm struggling with the situation he doesn't seem to understand why. It's just his presence here all the time, and the fact that he seems so self absorbed. He never seems to think, what can I do today that will help the family, eg gardening, going to the tip, tidying up, or even doing courses to help improve his mental health.
He said I have high expectations, so I really don't know what to think.