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Weird comment from partner...

35 replies

Finallyseptember · 12/09/2023 11:24

What would you make of this? It's been bugging me.
I am pregnant, my bump is huge on my small frame.
Partner said as I was looking at it in the mirror, "it's like your admiring it"
And not in a nice or jokey way.

OP posts:
Gjendefloooo · 12/09/2023 12:43

He's a dick.
I thought every pregnant woman looked at their bump. I've never been pregnant but can imagine the thought of having a baby growing inside must be amazing.

Is he starting to get jealous already?

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Finallyseptember · 12/09/2023 13:23

I think he might be... I may pull him on it? Or see if he says anything else.

OP posts:
MariePaperRoses · 12/09/2023 13:32

Finallyseptember · 12/09/2023 13:23

I think he might be... I may pull him on it? Or see if he says anything else.

You seem afraid of him?

If you don't stand up to him now and make it clear you won't stand for any nonsense from him you are going to find it a lot harder when baby arrives and you are vulnerable to nasty behaviour from him.

fabmaccawhackythumbsaloft · 12/09/2023 13:34

I'd see it as a red flag

His baby gives him the heebie jeebies and he's squeamish about touching it and kicks ?he doesn't see it as a admirable thing and can't understand why you do ?

I think you're gonna have your work cut out when the babies here . Is he planning on being at the birth ? God help him then if he can't even look at your bump.

Helendegenerate · 12/09/2023 13:35

OP he was being so insensitive. He could have hidden his squeamish comments from you. If he dislikes touching the kicks within your bump then how on earth is he going to deal with all the smelly sticky messy parts of a small baby. My guess he won't and you will do everything. Most unfair and very wrong.

Bagofcrisps · 12/09/2023 13:36

Just to give you another view;

I am extremely sqeamish and went through pregnancy and childbirth without reading a single book on it, as it made me feel faint. I didn't attend any classes and felt grossed out when my stomach moved on its own.
I adored my children once born and dealt with all their blood, sick etc. because I loved and cared for them.
Can't say if this is the case with your dp as we don't know your relationship, only you do.

AlexaCanYouHearMe · 12/09/2023 13:45

Agree .. Odd comment! Spiteful actually. WTF is wrong with admiring your baby bump? Idiot man!

I have a worse (IMO) story! Some years ago when I was carrying our first child, I was about eight months pregnant, and me and DH were walking through the shopping centre with hundreds of people around us, including a few people we knew.

We walked past Debenhams. with a 8 foot wide, 12 foot high mirror across the side of the shop. My husband pointed into the mirror as we passed, and said 'Fuck me! Look at the size of you! You're an actual monstrous size. You're like three elephants lined up!' I was like Hmm Angry

I mean, I was 8 months pregnant - but jeeeeez! I said 'do you want to insult and embarrass me anymore?! Fucking hell!' Hmm He went really red and walked along with his head down acting all sheepish. I can't believe for one second, that he thought it was okay to say that ... Even though I was 8 months pregnant, and WAS quite big, that was so rude and unacceptable.

Idiot! I know he was only in his 20s at the time. No excuse IMO! He never said anything again like that though!!!!!!

Whatintheworldgirl · 12/09/2023 13:56

Finallyseptember · 12/09/2023 11:24

What would you make of this? It's been bugging me.
I am pregnant, my bump is huge on my small frame.
Partner said as I was looking at it in the mirror, "it's like your admiring it"
And not in a nice or jokey way.

Honestly, now I'm fully aware im a stranger and a completely random third party who knows absolutely nothing about your relationship at all, but, I don't think he said anything bad at all (again I don't know your relationship, only you know it)

I know when I was pregnant with my twins my emotions where all over the place. I would cry over spilling cranberry juice or needing a wee again. It's a hard time on your body and on your mind. You're body is doing something amazing and it does take its toll. There is a possibility that you're upset about it due to hormones (I'm so sorry, I don't mean that disrespectfully) HOWEVER again I'm not denying that only you know him, if he meant it in an awful way, then you have every right to be upset. Take a few hours, distract yourself away from him, with a movie or whatever you find brings you calm and then come back to the question and see how you feel. If you still feel hurt or upset then your feelings are totally valid and he needs to know he upset you.

Sending all my love!

Coffeeandanap · 12/09/2023 14:16

I was thinking along the lines of jealous of her confidence, jealous of the baby making her happy in her body, maybe jealous of the attention she’s giving her bump & not him.

Coffeeandanap · 12/09/2023 14:17

WandaWonder · 12/09/2023 11:36

I get odd maybe but why jealous?

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I was thinking along the lines of jealous of her confidence, jealous of the baby making her happy in her body, maybe jealous of the attention she’s giving her bump & not him.

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