How do you look after yourself when having rocky times

[Lalalalala555]

Hi.
I need advice and help. Looking for tips on what and how you do to look after yourself when your relationship feels like a roller coaster.
Just how do you find strength.

Go for walks, talk to friends, appear happy if you can

listen to a podcast or read

think I’d be doing some thinking about whether a rollercoaster rocky relationship that I needed to actively “look after myself” through was a relationship I needed. Why is it like this? Are you both working on changing things? All the distraction techniques in the world can’t make up for a shitty relationship, especially one where there’s no direction of change.

Yep. Evaluating, change maybe happening. Sort of not sure if its dying a death or changing course.
But during that. Either way. Surviving is important.
Either going through breakup. Or going through a big dip.

@Lalalalala555 i could’ve written your post this morning. Going through a terribly hard patch - evaluating the relationship, change is needed both within it and/or the future & whether we have a future & what that might look like.
Im keeping a brave face on for kids / work (keeping it hidden) but now we’ve settled on some no-contact time as of last night I’m desperately missing him & going under - feel like I’m grieving. Not eaten or drunk or slept since yesterday.
last week I was doing sensible things like exercise , diy, reading books… but now I feel I’ve lost all ability / interest….

Im so sorry to hear you’re struggling similarly. We could maybe support each other a bit with it if you’d like? 💐

Fresh air, exercise and water. I’m sorry you’re going through this

Walks, chats to friends or family on the phone, cooking a special meal for yourself, finding a new box set to binge watch, having a declutter and sort out of stuff

This is when friends are absolute diamonds

Try to take a step back and look at thing objectively. What advise would I give my DD is she were an adult and going through this.
Planned me time, whether that be a walk, a coffee shop, a long soak, or Netflix and a massive bar of chocolate. Time with family and friends, people that make me laugh, no discussions just chatter.

I sulk. That helps me to find the inner strength.