On a holiday in a rebound relationship

[Alamax]

After a 4 month breakup, we're talking of getting back together. But - he got into a rebound, now he wants out of that relationship, but they've already booked a holiday together. A week later we ran into each other ...

He said he thought we could never get back, and he was very stressed over me, (and my argumens). She's never been on a holiday, is on anti depressants, her dad's got cancer ... so many things. He's scared to end it so is determined to go on the holiday, (next week), and insists he'll end it when they're back. They both spent and will lose a lot of money they don't have. He's not actually looking forward to it. I believe him.

At first I was ok with it because it was booked while we were apart and arguing. But now I feel like he's choosing her and that he should just end it with her and not go. Am I being unreasonable? He's not enjoying his dilemma and really is all heart. But I can't get why he's choosing her feelings over mine. Should I be patient?

This sounds like a tonne and drama. Everyone involved sounds like they need to work on themselves before getting into a relationship.

He’s taking the piss out of both of you.

Don't go back.

Do not get back with this man.

Come on.

Leave this absolute prince alone until he's single.

Do not take part in his drama.

Totally agree. It all sounds like a series of rather convenient excuses. I think there's a good chance that he's planning on stringing you both along for longer too. I wouldn't be surprised if he got back from the holiday and claimed that he just couldn't officially finish with Rebound Girlfriend because her mental health had deteriorated/Dad's health has gone downhill etc etc. He'll probably assure OP that of course he's not sleeping with RG/they're more like friends/the holiday was no fun, just waiting for the right time etc. Whereas RG will have no idea and he may even claim that OP is a crazy ex who can't accept that it's over.

Um...no. I wouldn't be interested in knowingly loitering in the wings until he ditches her. What a shitty, selfish arrangement. That poor woman. What's wrong with you that you're willing to go along with this?

Maybe you think you've won your trophy back or something...who knows.

He's lost the money whether he goes or not.
He could just not go, if he doesn't want to, and donate his half of the holiday to one of her friends if they paid any change fee.
He's not going to lose any money if he goes except perhaps more spending money.
If he goes it's because he wants to

Solution- he tells her he doesn't want to ge with her. Holiday will allow bane change, either you go or a friend of hers goes.

He's being awful to both of you.

This. I expect he’ll absolutely shit himself and come up with 101 non-reasons why it wouldn’t work.

He’s taking you both for mugs OP, you deserve better.

Gosh he’s bold.

As this holiday was booked while they were together, have you considered that the sleeping arrangements will have been booked accordingly?

Yeah, you're definitely the one that's getting the shitty end of the stick in this scenario...

Ha ha ha ha…. Fuck that shit!!! Find your inner angry bitch and ditch this loser!

My, he sounds a prince

Stop and ask yourself why you think you deserve this shit. You don't. You really don't.

So he was single for how long? How in a relationship where he commited to a holiday with someone he is devaluing to you..can you imagine what he said/says about you?

He is at best a weak man or he is manipulative as clearly saying one thing to her and another to you. You can choose to believe he still loves you but he definitely isn't acting like it. Believe his actions not his words or excuses.