Partner fixating on other women

[Della88]

Hi folks, not the first time I have posted here & this problem does not seem to be getting any better (also a backstory) partner checking out other women on a regular basis, not just a quick look, but literally fixating on them to the point of it being as obvious as F..K. I have explained to him that it is disrespectful to myself and the other women and that it is in no way jealousy on my part, he also doesn't create intimacy with me either, which is another reason I am finding this hurtful. The smart arse has even started walking behind me now, in the hope that I don't notice his behaviour, unbelievable!

Short of not going anywhere with him (which is nigh on impossible because I don't drive) I don't know how else to deal with this, or at least detach from it. I am not in a situation to leave & basically this just feels like a relationship without the respect I deserve.

Thoughts??

What would you do if he ditched you tomorrow and your hand were forced? Do that. Imagine he’s ended it.

Live separately and take the bus, never be dependent on a fucking man for anything.

Exactly this. If you have health problems you will be entitled to benefits, pip etc if you are unable to work. I just don't understand the you are stuck bit.

If there's emotional (financial?) abuse, you could engage with local domestic abuse services, get support to leave, potentially go into a refuge. That would be a stepping stone to a different sort of life, you could divorce, get your share of any assets etc.

You only get the one life.

Yes you 100% do deserve respect in your relationship - this one is not a relationship worth staying in. Planning your exit will be the first step. I can't offer much advice aside from some online resources that might be able to help you get a divorce and suggesting that you contact charities that can aid you in finding somewhere to stay e.g. Women's Aid.
Mumsnet is a great resource and so is Facebook in terms of their divorce support groups. They have great people who can support and answer any questions you might have. It was really useful for me. I couldn't afford a solicitor in my divorce so I used these free help guides that guided me through the entire process - see if this can help you - https://iamlip.com/. Take all these steps to help you get a divorce and get back on your feet with the help of some charities. The website I suggested here also has a page of recommended charities, check some of them out xx https://iamlip.com/help-guides/registered-charities-that-could-help-you/

He’s not going to change but you can . Hope you find a way and support to leave .have you used an online site to see what help financially you are entitled to?

It's either you change your situation or accept his behaviour. It seems you are both together out of limited options.
You either turn a blind eye to benefit from his driving or stick up for your values and struggle with public transport until you can drive maybe.