Am I just overreacting?

[BelleMia]

I met a man at my work last year September. We hit it off, he asked for my number and we saw each other for 1 month. I went through a tough time, and so at that stage he said that we should rather be friends. I saw it as rejection so I just went on with my life and never contacted him again. This year June he contacted me again and apologized.

From thereon, we see each other everyday and every weekend. We do stuff together, spend time together, have fun together, text each other constantly when we are not together. We are there for one another and support one another. He has an amazing relationship with my son. We also sleep together and he spends many nights at my house - however its not what our relationship is based on. He talks about the future - wants to move in. He even has a remote to my house for access. When he goes out, he send me pictures of where he is and when he is on his phone, he shows me with whom he is speaking and he even shows his Whatsapp to me - without me even asking.

There is just one problem - he was badly hurt in a past relationship. And he told me he does not want to be in a relationship.

Can he change his mind, or is this a lost case?

When do you think he is going to ask you to do the same... proving where you are, who you are with, what is on your phone? After all that is how he is 'proving' his love and devotion to you...
Weird. Creepy.
I wouldn't.... just wouldn't.
And as for being keen to move in..?? Not in a million years.

He wants everything else aside from calling it a relationship

So he wants to move in but doesn't want to be in a relationship?

What's the purpose of showing you his WhatsApp if you're not in a relationship? He could be talking to other women if he wanted. You're not exclusive.

You've only been seeing each other a couple of months. It all sounds way too intense. How old is your ds? I think it's too soon to be introducing this guy to him.

I think you should take the Freedom Programme. You have only been going out a couple of months and he has the key to your house and knows your son. As if that were not enough he thinks love is proving where you are and with whom every hour of the day

He even has a remote to my house for access.

What does this mean please? Is it instead of a key?

This non relationship sounds very unhealthy already, at the very least it sounds like it's all going his way. I'd be being extremely careful with this one @BelleMia .

Don't be foolish enough to fall for this old ploy. He says it's not a relationship so he can do whatever the hell he wants and you can't complain about it.

Stop wasting your time and get your bloody key back.

Sorry but he sounds sorta creepy op. I wouldn't trust him as far as I can throw him. Have you considered the reason he keeps in constant contact is not to update you on his life but actually to keep tabs on you? He wants you to be glued to your phone, constantly at his beck and call. It's love bombing.

And you know all that hurt by an ex is a huge pile of shite right? The oldest line in the player handbook.

As if not calling it a relationship would stop a NORMAL person from developing feelings in a situation where he is constantly in your life. He wants you to fall for him for the sake of his ego. But the second something else cite comes by, he'll drop you like hot shit with 'but I TOLD you I didn't want a relationship'. Amd act like you are some crazy bunny boiler.

Take your damn keys back and stop letting a fuck buddy hang out with your son. If you gave feelings for him, end it. Because he does not want a relationship. Listen to him.

He is already in a relationship with you. He doesn't want to call it like that to be able to cross the bridge to greener pastures like the Billy boy he is.

Actions speak louder than words

What do his actions say? Does he talk about the future?

Are there any red flags? What does your gut feeling tell you?