Anyone else noticed this type of man on OLD?

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He's in his 50s and writes extensively about how he is such an individual, independent free thinker who does not follow the crowd, but is intellectual and interesting and full of deep thoughts and wants a woman who is the same and super confident and knows her own mind.

And then his age range of women he is interested in starts at 21 and ends under his own age.

So not only is he a boringly typical mid-aged man hoping to bang a twenty year old, but he's not, despite his great intellectual critical free thinking, self-reflective or deep thinking enough to realise this.

And his claims to be sapio-sexual and want a super smart, independent thinking, deep thinking woman seem to be at odds with wanting a woman whose brain is not fully mature for another four years and has very limited life experience.

More red flags than the bunting on village fate day.
Avoid at all costs.

LMAO what a ponce. He sounds tragic.

There's not just one of him. Its a definite type that I have seen over and over!

Pretending to be different. I wonder who it is they think they're fooling? Themselves only I think.

Oh OLD is full of men who claim to be sapiosexual and sex positive but can barely string 3 words together and ate a crap shag

I had to Google sapiosexual. Oh dear 🙄🙄🙄

There's plenty of arseholes out there!

I'm also in my 50's & OLD.

The quality of men is shocking - from the excessive hobbies types, to the clearly married men, to the "sex positive" ones, the entitled nobbers looking for women 1/2 their age.

It's a minefield

How tedious, this is why I don't date any more.

to the "sex positive" ones

Is ' sex positive' code for 'I've watched loads of porn and now I want a woman with no self-esteem who will let me act it all out on her inert body'?

Their younger counterparts are currently known as 'softbois' (see Instagram account beammeupsoftboi) but have been around at least 100 years - I was surprised to come across one in Cold Comfort Farm's Mr Mybug.
I think it's that they're trying to set themselves apart from the typical 'alpha male' but still essentially see women as sex objects / therapists / mothers.

I’m mid 60s and would love to meet a sex positive sapiosexual. So I respond to those profiles if I’m in the right age range (or more often they message me age notwithstanding).

The vast majority I’ve met do not live up to the advertising and are looking for someone undemanding, unchallenging, monogamous and available. They seem averagely normal polite people.

Honesty really would be the best policy but I guess we’ve all got used to “presenting as our best selves”.

I’m same age group and I’ve really no desire to see any more photos of their shrivelled naked arses and dicks thank you very much.

I think 'sex positive' for these guys means 'I won't slut shame you for doing things I want in bed' 🙄

Sex positivity is a very good thing in general IMO, but of course these guys have their own super-basic definition of it

A bit like the women who want a man with a car, decent job and must be a looker - but they in fact don't drive, look average at best and are unemployed.

It's not easy for men on OLD either - there's a lot of unrealistic expectations from both sides I've found.

I asked a man recently what the sex positive with a 🌶️ means and his really ‘I’m hot baby lol try me’

I unmatched 🤣

Lol.

I think that should be made the dictionary definition.

Nothing’s changed from the ads in the back of the paper days.

😂

I agree with the idea of unrealistic expectations on both sides. We expect from an individual what we used to expect from a community.

I don't want to Google it can someone enlighten me please 😀

It’s a really wanky way of giving oneself a backhanded compliment.

It means being sexually attracted to clever people. Which isn’t a sexuality. And the few men I’ve chatted to who proudly describe themselves thus, also really hate it when I’m smart enough to articulately disagree with them.

Ha ha ha ha excellent thank you that's so funny.

I was way off the mark with my imagination, much more in the gutter than looking at the stars.

Do people really say this?
Really?

Or perhaps they need an appointment at the clap clinic.

Yeah, they are in their 1000s, copy paste individuals with scewed ideologi about relationships, just women in general.

Avoid.

I'm in my late 40s and just deleted all dating apps after 6 months. The men are beyond grim. I never knew what sapiosexual was until I started OLD - it's a definite swipe left for me now. My last message from a sapiosexual (it was his first approach to me!!!) referred to my "catwalk tits". He said he was 48 but his photo looked mid 60s. 🤮