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Leaving my husband

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peahe123 · 11/09/2023 03:21

Done a post the other day about my husband messaging other woman.. anyway I have decided to leave, but his Nan has just passed away so that is making me feel bad about doing it.
Also how will it work we have a house together with a mortgage, I can't afford it on my own. I have no family I can move too. He does have family so could move out but then I can't afford it. Can't really save any money as money is already tight.

Also do I wait until after the funeral?

So confused about how to do it and lots emotions going around

OP posts:
Nomorelittlebabybum · 11/09/2023 06:19

I think I would rather have no money and have to move house than have no self respect. Leave him. You'll look back at this as a stressful but positive step. Fuck him and his nan. He wasn't thinking about you when he was messaging those other women

Bansheed · 11/09/2023 06:59

When is the funeral?

You need to sell the house or your share if you can't afford it.

If your relationship os over and there are no children, then move on and start afresh

Loubelle70 · 11/09/2023 07:04

Years ago, i would have supported him (25 years together) through one of his family passing away...even if he was messaging other women.
Im wiser now, i would leave him to his family to support each other.
I stayed well over what i should have, let him stay until he found somewhere to live because i didn't want to see him homeless, it destroyed me seeing him all the time after we had separated. And he was an arse on top of everything i had done for him
No dont support him, let his family.

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peahe123 · 11/09/2023 07:27

We do have a 11 month old which is why it's way harder as he will always have to be in my life.

OP posts:
Nomorelittlebabybum · 11/09/2023 07:30

peahe123 · 11/09/2023 07:27

We do have a 11 month old which is why it's way harder as he will always have to be in my life.

Totally harder, but what advice would you give her 20/30 years down the line? You need him out of your home to grieve for the relationship and move forward. Totally sympathise with you, it sounds awful x

Loubelle70 · 11/09/2023 07:34

peahe123 · 11/09/2023 07:27

We do have a 11 month old which is why it's way harder as he will always have to be in my life.

It will OP, but you can still co parent effectively together. Better to be happier parents apart than miserable together

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