Hi everyone,
I need some opinions please. My partner and I have now been together a year and I am struggling with our set up.
We both have children with previous partners and he is the main caregiver for his. He works weekends and we have really limited time together, we have one day (school day) together in the week but I am struggling with the lack of weekends together. Literally only the evening we have.
He tells me I knew what I signed up to but at the beginning it worked as we hadn’t met each others children.
My hopes for a relationship were to spend weekends together, go away, go out with friends and we do none of that. We’ve had some discussions and he can book the occasional weekend off (but MUST work all school holidays and bank holidays) so we can’t even go away with the kids together in the future.
He is a really really lovely guy, but I feel destined to spend weekends and holidays alone as he is so tied. He’s also commented that his weekends (obviously) have to be balanced against extra time with his kids and for himself, so I don’t even feel like that’s the answer.
I feel bad for wanting to end it for this reason, but I was married for a long time to someone who prioritised himself over me and the children, and I hoped for a relationship for me this time.
He also lives an hour away from me which makes it really difficult so I can’t even easily have a midweek night with him. As he has limited support with the children, it is always me travelling if I do try and go up midweek. It’s starting to feel quite one sided.
Has anyone made this work? Have any ideas? Or am I right with how I’m feeling, and it’s better to stop it now as I feel it’s always going to be an issue?