Separate every evening

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Random one but do you and your DH/partner spend every evening together?
me and DH have got in this awful habit the last few months of me watching my TV upstairs and him watching his TV downstairs.

going to really try and break this and find things to watch together…. as I don’t think it’s very healthy ?? What do you guys think ?

DH & I have very different tastes in TV, so we usually do as you do, OP, him in one room and me in the other.

We do find things to watch together sometimes, like we've been watching a lot of rugby this weekend, and we pop in and out to each other for a chat every so often.

We've been married a very long time but it works for us

Yes but we don’t watch tv either. Can you do something different together one or two evenings a week ?.

Yeah I hardly watch TV with my hubby. We used to chill in the same room he would watch TV whilst I was on my phone or laptop.

Then when I started watching TV he would watch TV in the kitchen and occasionally we would watch together.

Lately I am upstairs watching TV upstairs or doing something else and he has the lounge to himself watching TV.

I thought it was normal behaviour until I saw your post hahahah

But I am happy with the arrangement as I just want peace and quiet and no bullshit after a hectic day work and with kids.

So I will continue to do things separately in the evening!

Hell I am even thinking of not going on days out with my hubby too because he can be annoying when we go out as a family hahahahaha

Ahh thanks for your replies ladies. It’s made me feel better. x

We hardly ever do anything together in the evening. We both like our own space so just head off to different rooms to read or listen to music. We get on fine too. I don’t understand couples who do everything together, but just do,what works for you.

If we are both in during the evening the 9 times out of 10 we will be in the same room.

My husband likes to watch his footy shows in the evenings so I go upstairs and watch tv. Occasionally we might watch a show together but it's not the norm.

Different rooms mostly

Married 30+ years and we do most things separately ... I am currently on my own on holiday ... we have totally different interests and friendship groups ... at home we usually share an evening meal together and then do our own thing in the evenings. If we are watching tv we have very different tastes but we occasionally find a series or film we will both enjoy (but probably only once a week). And we have separate bedrooms.
Not really sure how we have stayed married for so long but it clearly works for us .. I could never be in a co-dependent, enmeshed type of relationship ... but one of my closest friends, happily married the same length as us, rarely does anything without her DH. That works for them.

my DH likes to watch mindless drivel on the tv each night, i like to read. i sit in the lounge but wear ear defenders so i don't get disturbed by his noise! and often go to bed much much earlier than him. it works for us.

Two adults who separately find enough for an evening.

We only have 1 TV so generally do spend the evening together! Sometimes I’ll have a bath or read in bed, if he wants to watch a sport match