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Mother in law passed away, my partner is struggling. Help?

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Newuserbekind · 10/09/2023 19:02

Hi,

So she's not technically my mother in law as we aren't married but we have been together nearly 5 years now.

Back in April she was diagnosed with cancer, ever since my partner has completely withdrawn himself, he's isolated, doesn't want any affection, intimacy or is as playful as he used to be which I understood. I have helped keep the house clean and tidy, that there is food in the house and helped with his child from a prior relationship.

I miss him immensely and there can be times where we are just sat in silence and we don't say anything and he's on his phone. He goes out a lot to clear his mind and says he needs some space, I become worried that he is going to leave me and because of his total change in how he is I feel like I'm waiting for it. However 2 weeks ago she passed away and of course he is still the same. I'm worried he's going to leave and no matter what I do it won't be enough right now.

This post is not intended to be a selfish one, but one where I care about my partner and our relationship. I'm supporting him by just thinking about little things he doesn't need too, being there when he needs to talk (although nothing helps) and when we share memories of his mum.

I just don't know what to do and I've had months of not having the love of my life there as he was before and I do get it, I do. I just feel lost.

OP posts:
LessYappingMoreDoing · 10/09/2023 19:09

Is he speaking to anyone at all? Maybe suggest it could be beneficial for him to speak about his feelings with someone.
https://www.cruse.org.uk/

Cruse Bereavement Support

Grief can be overwhelming - you don't have to deal with it alone. Cruse Bereavement Support is here. Call our helpline or chat online.

https://www.cruse.org.uk/

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