My partner works Mon- Friday . I am home all day but never get any support in the home whatsoever no help with the never ending housework,decorating , Gardening and this month money towards Bills etc . I’m feeling taken advantage off ,most weekends we do nothing he’s literally in bed constantly, yesterday I decorated the bedroom he slept all day on the sofa today he is still in bed as far asknow he has no health problem that would warrant this lifestyle yet I have Fibromyalgia so sometimes am unable to do what is needed.
Friday after two days of asking he started helping decorate the bedroom literally all he had to do was paint the ceiling as I had spent ages days sanding/ filling etc then being unwell as a result of overdoing it. As it happened my Spynx cat went missing having escaped through a window to my horror, my daughter who now lives in her own home came to help me look for the cat we spent literally 5 hrs driving about in separate cars had a cuppa then was going back out to look at night,my partner was “ decorating” so when my Daughter was slagging him off for not helping I somewhat stuck up for him !. Later a neibour found my naughty cat thankfully but when I went to see bedroom that he took all day to do I found not one bit of paint not one thing had been done apart from moving around 3 boxes to the spare room this took all day as nothing else had changed, so what had he been doing all day , he even told me he had removed wallpaper so when I attempted to paint yesterday thinking I could get the majority finished I was surprised to find remenants of wallpaper that I thought would take seconds to remove with a scraper and bit of water, but nope there was lining paper covering the entire surface I did not finish until 2am this morning then had to clean all Four of my cat litter trays before bathing.
im wondering if it’s because it is my tenancy not his , he usually gives financial help towards living but this month Nil apparently because he was paid wrongly this excuse then went on to a change in tax code …. Unlikely as it’s not a new job etc etc so I’ve paid all the bills, but refused to buy more food ,fridge is bare, topped up Gas/ Electric, I buy enough cigarettes to last until I next get money he has even been smoking these despite having his own tobacco I’m being completly mugged off. Last month was similar we’re pretty skint for some reason so I had to borrow money . We went to a wedding this month he paid for hotel I didn’t think we could afford to stay in the hotel and could of found a cheaper alternative he told me it was within budget, then I found out he had been going to the bar a lot buying nearly the whole wedding party drinks, I was part of the Bridal party so was not around by the time all photos had been done had 2 drinks with him before he started getting argumentative as always once had a drink) he then followed me up to the room ,which was my plan to save myself embarrassment if he drunk too much where he passed out for much of the evening
im feeling doubly bad about this situation as this isn’t the first time I’ve had a partner like this.