Extreme response from partner

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Been with partner five years. Been noticing us drifting a bit and having less sex of late. Mentioned it in a very casual way. He was ok after then the next morning was very angry.
Has not spoken to me properly for a week. When I ask for a conversation he cannot. Yesterday he could not even say one word to me.
Words of advice please folks.
I cannot work out what he is thinking. So do I even bother or call it a day.

He’s abusive by refusing to speak. I’d call it a day and save your sanity.

That’s odd

did you mention anything about the act itself?

some people can be sensitive 🙄

Nope nothing about the act itself. He was more concerned about my reference to..something going on.

What DustyLee wrote.

You could try saying firmly he either starts acting like a grown man and talk to you so you can work through relationship issues together.

If that still doesn't help I would leave him to it.

Could be he is just getting caught up in the rising attitude that women should get back in their boxes and let the men say and act however they like.

Nip it in the bud.

Right, so you suggested he could be cheating?

I expect he's very hurt and perhaps you're both considering your options. I'd agree he should talk about it though.

I suggested there was something...as in he could be knackered, not fancy me any more. I never suggested cheating but he could have heard that if you interpreted it like that.

Sounds like maybe he IS cheating and is being angry to shut you up.

That level of anger doesn't sit right with me.

Cherchez la femme.

Not a normal response at all.

His intention is to punish and shut you up.
Why?

Either he's cheating or he has just shown you he uses silence to punish, which is abusive.

He's an arsehole.
Do not contact him.

Have some respect for yourself.

I live with him...

What do you mean “he cannot”? What does actually he say? Personally I couldn’t be bothered with these mind games and would tell him so or leave.

It sounds as though you were saying that something was going on with him as opposed to the issue being something going on with you. It sounds as though you were placing responsibility on him. Perhaps, he wasn't impressed with that analysis.

I asked him for a conversation and he could not even form a word in his mouth. He mumbled. I had an appt so had to leave the house. I was asking him when we could talk

This was my first thought.

But he's being abusive, and you shouldn't have to put up with it.

Tell him that if he can't have an adult conversation about why this bothers him so much, you will have to split up.

Well, he's either very embarrassed about it and not handling it in a mature way or there's another reason why he doesn't want to ask about it ie, he knows the reason and has no interest in telling you so he needs to just shut the conversation down (cheating).

So a simple question has resulted in a week of silence?

OP, this is dreadful behaviour from him.

This is abusive behaviour.

You need to take this really seriously.

This is not normal behaviour.

Imagine having a child with someone who would ignore you for a week because of a single question?

Don't inflict that type of home on a child.