Would you be offended if you were an after thought?

[Sara1003]

Would you be offended if your sister invited you to the baptism as an after thought. I can’t make the day due to a wedding and her response was- We did change the date so many times to fit everyone in.

But this is the first I have heard of it, I am hardly a priority. Upsetting as she is always a priority for me. Her husbands family and his friends always takes preference.

How have you been an afterthought? Ie she didn’t consult you as she did others?

But whatever you do, if you’re otherwise close, don’t for goodness sakes make an issue over this!

Did she just assume that as her sister you would drop everything to go?

It’s upsetting but I don’t think she meant it as you’re an afterthought. She probably had other reasons why it had to keep changing. My dds baptism had to keep changing dates and some family members couldn’t make it. These things just happen.

Send your apologies for not making it then I’d drop it and not make a big thing out of it.

Who is getting arrived? Close friend/relative?

Good heavens op

you started a thread this morning asking if people would be offended if their best friend muted them on WhatsApp

stop looking for reasons to be offended OP

it s beautiful Sunny Sunday. Make yourself a coffee and chill

Sounds like it's already been a headache for her to organise.

And, you clearly don't always prioritise her as you are not prioritising the baptism.

I understand what you mean, OP. There have obviously been prior discussions where people have given dates their were unavailable, but your sister didn't involve you in those discussions.

That is upsetting for sure. I have a similar issue with one of my sisters where others are prioritised, whereas any query on "Are you free on X date?" Is usually followed up with a request for childcare.

I guess your own immediate family can often take your relationship for granted and not feel the pressure of politeness and consideration they feel for others in their lives.