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Would you be offended if muted you WhatsApp

23 replies

Sara1003 · 10/09/2023 08:23

My best friend has muted me on WhatsApp, would you be offended?
She takes weeks to get back to me but muted no one else.
I don't think I have done anything to offend her, in fact the exact opposite. I babysit for her daughter for weeks last year at the detriment of my own work.

OP posts:

ThickSkinnedSoWhat · 10/09/2023 08:24

Sara1003 · 10/09/2023 08:23

Well I certainly wouldn't be rushing myself to babysit for them again.

PrinceHaz · 10/09/2023 08:24

For whatever reason, she’s pulling away from you. I’d do the same now and don’t get suckered in to caring for her child again.

WorseDecision · 10/09/2023 08:25

No wouldn't be offended at all. She can still receive your messages.

VisionsOfSplendour · 10/09/2023 08:26

How can you tell if someone has muted you?

ShellySarah · 10/09/2023 08:26

I wouldn't be messaging her again if she takes weeks to reply. I'd mute her back she's not your best friend

2chocolateoranges · 10/09/2023 08:27

How do you know she has you muted?

I’ve got my work chat and a couple of friends muted due to constantly receiving messages. I still check WhatsApp during the day but I don’t jump everytime a message comes through.

PaminaMozart · 10/09/2023 08:28

She isn't your best friend.

She is a user.

But she doesn't need you right now, hence muting you.

Gizlotsmum · 10/09/2023 08:29

Do you message a lot? At early or late times? I mute some chats as they are so busy, I check them still but I am not interrupted by constant notifications. If your work suffered because you babysat her kids that is on you. You didn’t have to have them. Maybe re-evaluate the friendship as it doesn’t sound like it is working for you.

WhoWhereHow · 10/09/2023 08:32

How can you possibly know you're muted?

I don't read all my messages immediately. I wait until a good point in the day where I can sit down and give them proper attention.

Her not responding for weeks sounds like a conversation but a) she hasn't blocked you and b) not everyone can or wants to respond immediately to every message, especially if they have a busy job/kids/caring responsibilities

CremeEggThief · 10/09/2023 08:36

How do you know you're muted and nobody else is?

I have to agree she doesn't sound like your best friend.

Whataretheodds · 10/09/2023 08:39

I babysit for her daughter for weeks last year at the detriment of my own work.

Why?

Sporkle99 · 10/09/2023 08:42

I muted my best mate because we message a lot, and it's distracting when I'm at work, but the difference is I always get back to her. It's the not getting back that implies she's not really that into your friendship.

Alleycatz · 10/09/2023 08:47

I only ever mute people if they are messaging beyond my capability to deal with the messages either in terms of content or frequency. I think there is an issue there.

perfectcolourfound · 10/09/2023 09:06

How do you know you are muted? You can only know that if she's told you, and presumably when she told you she explained why.

Muting someone isn't an automatic insult. I've muted a group I'm in because they message so often and it's distracting. I still dip in to it at some point every couple of days to catch up. Do you message her when she's working or late at night for example?

Capdontrecycle · 10/09/2023 09:08

Good heavens op

you started a thread this morning asking if people would be offended about not being able to make a baptism date

stop looking for reasons to be offended OP

it s beautiful Sunny Sunday. Make yourself a coffee and chill

Hiddenvoice · 10/09/2023 09:28

How do you know you’re muted? And how do you know others are not muted?

there could be a million reasons for it but whatever it is she’s not wanting to talk right now. I’d give her some space and let her come to you when you’re ready.

Sounds like you’re not having a good morning op with your friend and your sister!

ohgawdnah · 10/09/2023 10:05

How do you know you're muted? And how do you know she hasn't muted anyone else?

I wouldn't be offended. I've muted some group chats and people who message often with day to day chat - it's not that I don't like them, it's just that's it's never anything urgent and I find the notifications distracting (but still need some notifications to see when my kids have messaged).

If she's taking weeks to reply could she maybe have something going on in her life that you don't know about?

Bobbotgegrinch · 10/09/2023 13:35

I'd take it as a sign that I'm probably messaging way too much.

I tend to mute anyone who gets in touch more than twice a week, (other than DD and DP) and then I'll just check WhatsApp once a day and message back anyone who's contacted me. I don't want to spend all day with my phone pinging and distracting me

weeRagamuffin · 10/09/2023 13:37

I have a few groups muted as my phone would be popping incessantly otherwise, but I have no one individual muted.

I'd never mute somebody I considered a friend, or somebody who had repeatedly done me favours. I'd mute her back and the next time she asks for a favour, well, you mightn't notice until it's too late!

Redwinestillfine · 10/09/2023 15:39

I mute most people, and all groups. It's nothing personal. I just don't like all the pings. I don't understand how you know you're muted though.

SliceOfCakeCupOfTea · 10/09/2023 15:42

I mute people and groups all the time!

justwatchingtelly · 10/09/2023 19:37

My phone is always on silent.

rasellagirl · 10/09/2023 19:40

Another here who thought that people don't know when you've muted them.
I often do, if I don't want to be disturbed.

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