I am recently married and I just learned that my husbands mother has access to his bank accounts and is monitoring his spending. We haven’t joined bank accounts yet, I merely haven’t gotten to organizing how I wanted to do it and we rarely have weekdays off together, so I never pushed it. We’re about to close on a home purchase, and I am also 9 weeks pregnant. His mother is also our realtor, so she in involved in every aspect of the home buying process as well. Last week we had to go to the furniture store with his mother so she can help him decide how we are going to decorate our home which caused an argument. He said he gave his mother access to his bank accounts so she could budget for him because he says “he’s bad with money”. I was unaware this involved literally looking at every purchase he makes and monitoring it and choosing how he spends his money for him. He believes there’s no issue with this, and I informed him I am uncomfortable with it and want it to stop. His response was “well I asked you if you wanted to combine accounts and you never did anything about it”. His mother suggested today that we don’t combine our accounts and commented how she’s going to be mad at him if she sees certain purchases she doesn’t approve of. This seems like more than “here’s a budget” as there’s an intention for continued monitoring/checking on how he spends his money. She does not know I’m pregnant as I don’t want anybody to know right now. She has his location and can view where he is at any time. I don’t have access to his bank accounts. I brought this up to him and he got mad and defended the situation and then said fine, we can get our own account to stop me from complaining. I am so extremely uncomfortable with all of this, I guess I’m wondering if these thing are normal?! He insists there is nothing wrong with it to the point that it is causing arguments.