Not comfortable with gf's tattoo artist, should I speak to her about it?

[Robrob2424]

I am not sure if I should speak to my gf or not about her tattoo artist or wondered if I am overreacting? she used to have a tattoo artist she went to a lot but that guy has now moved areas an moved on, she had other tattoo artists she went to and I never had a problem, they were very professional.

However she found someone that she has currently booked in with and I am not sure if she has just missed the profile or not..but the person looks to be working out of a shared arts building doing the tattooing in their free time, they have the main profile linked but the bio of the account is sex without strings, hardcore, bdsm, kinky emo with a ton of sexual pictures with other women. I'll be honest this is the first time that I have felt very uncomfortable with my gf getting a tattoo...especially when the other person is going to be giving her a tattoo very close to her you know.

I know if the roles were reversed and I was getting a tattoo near my from someone with a profile doing sexual pictures and acts with another person, she wouldn't be happy

am I overreacting or should I speak to her?

You're overreacting.

As long as this artist follows safe working practices, is hygienic and produces good work it matters not two fucks what else they get up to.

Besides which, your girlfriend can have whoever the heck she wants tattoo her.

Do you think she's going to get drawn into some seedy little world, or the tattoo artist is going to try to slip a digit in whilst doodling? Really?

I'd talk to her to see if she's missed what you've seen. If I realised I'd booked in with a creep like this I'd cancel and find someone else.

I would ask her if she saw the full profile - she probably doesn't want a perv up in her you know.

Of course you should discuss it with her, it's obviously an issue for you. I'd come at it from a 'concerned' angle though rather than from an 'I don't want you doing this' angle.

YABU to judge this person before they have tattooed your GF. Chances are they will be professional and act the same as previous tattoo artists. However, you can't help what you feel uncomfortable over, so I agree with others who say to just talk to her.

YABU to not name body parts. They are body parts, it's simple biology. Do you have a problem using the word hand or finger?

well their main profile was linked...apart from the sex without strings, kinky, emo and other things...it's a full on profile of a non binary person kissing and doing sexual things with women...looks like they tattoo out of some shared art building where people paint and do other stuff.

We argued recently unfortunately as she had a random message from a guy but said it was due to wanting to befriend people on a facebook group but forgot to tell me...she did show me the messages and he became flirty so she stopped speaking, later that day she had a message from an unknown number from a guy saying, hi how are you, you know who it is shyam, of course I wasn't happy...turned out to be someone she hooked up before me....it was a coincidence that day I guess and she told me it was someone from the past...so of course I have to trust that

but booking in with a tattoo artist into sexual things who posts it openly...i'm struggling now to be honest so yep feeling really uncomfortable...not the tattoo artists fault

She’s meeting this person for sex. No one uses the business services of someone who has a sex profile linked unless they are meeting for sex!

I bet she wouldn’t be getting tattooed by a women who had her sex worker profile linked would she?

Her other tattoo artist could have been up to all that too, but just didn’t have it quite so out in the open 🤷🏻‍♀️

I think you are over reacting, she’s going for a tattoo, not a bdsm whipping session

I’d tell her. She may not know.

I don’t think it’s unreasonable to show her the profile and explain you feel uncomfortable tbh 🤷‍♀️

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I actually would be more concerned about being tattooed in a shared arts building rather than a studio - is it sanitary? Especially if the area is shared with people doing things like painting where being totally sanitary + disinfecting / maintaining a sterile environment isn't a necessity.

I've met several tattoo artists at kink events. Some are more open than others, a couple use being on the scene as part of their advertising. All are incredibly professional and wouldn't dream of doing anything whilst tattooing to risk infection nor would they do anything without consent.

What this artist does or doesn't get up to is none of your business tbh. Either you trust your gf to say no to any offers or you don't

Is his work in keeping with her other tattoos? It is more likely she's chosen him because he's good at what she wants/likes.

No, I don't know. Do tell.

And just btw, I'm assuming your g/f has all her faculties about her? I'd be more concerned about the person's skills.

@Robrob2424 do you think she's going to have sex with him??