Don't know whether to talk or not

[Owlgirl1987]

I have postes previously about my husband having an affair.
We are still together and doing marriage counselling.
I'm struggling mentally at the minute, due to the fact he had an affair and some of the things he said about her e.g he loved her, they had a connection etc and he also said that he had done some stuff sexually with her that he hasn't or won't do with me and I dont know why.
Am I right to ask him to talk to me about these things as I feel like am I good enough, why would he say and do these things and i feel like for us to get better and move on we need to discuss these thought, worries etc. Would you agree?
If so how would you bring it up and discuss it?

I am sorry that you are going through this. I personally think you need counselling just for yourself for the time being not for your marriage. You just had your heart and trust broken by someone you thought you're going to be spending the rest of your life with and done what's called the unforgiveable and you forgave him, and now you're left all confused as to why he's done it and why did he think he can't do certain things with you. If you need those answers and you feel you can't talk to him about it just raise them in your next counselling session which is supposed to be a neutral and safe place and hopefully he will open up.