Do I leave

[jabal]

im Not sure if I’m after advice, support or validation but I’m extremely sensitive at the minute so please be kind.
im thinking of ending my 10 year relationship
i have 1 son my current partner is not his father
my current partner has battled addiction issues
we do not live together although recently he has suggests this again and I suspect it if for financial reasons
I lost my mum earlier this year and he has had a tough year with health issues but I feel he hasn’t really been supportive to me
there is no intimacy apart from the odd kiss
he ignores my calls at times
we don’t date any more
I feel like im not even sure why we are together other than we love each other
I feel like as im grieving I shouldn’t made any major decisions such as splitting up but I don’t think im happy and I don’t know what to do

It seems like a no brainier. He’s an addict, not the father to your Son, you don’t live together and there is no intimacy. I’m not sure how you’ve been together this long or why you see a future. He sounds like a waste of space in your life.

Life is short. Move on and find happiness.

Please. Just leave.

If this thread is a subconscious way of seeking permission to leave (which is fully understandable) here it is: you can, and should, leave.

You deserve so much better than this.

This. Is he a loving support partner who does at least 50 % of parenting and makes you feel wonderful and is your best friend and supporter in words, in reality …. If the answer isn’t yes…. Go

Often people say when you are grieving you should not make any major decisions for at least a year. I think it is because you sometimes, and I know this is true for me, that you can't really make informed decisions. Ur judgement is 'off'. In your situation it seems as if things have been poor before the beginning of your bereavement. Be kind to yourself OP re bereavement. It is something we learn to live alongside rather than 'get over' as some people might suggest.

I will also validate your decision (which I think you already know is the best for your future) to end this poor relationship. I’m sorry about the loss of your mum and hope you find some space to grieve and start this next phase of your life with your son. Take care.

Get rid. Have a better life for you and your kid.

Off he goes! Honestly what on earth does he bring in positivity to your life?

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In what ways does he make your life better?

Do you feel supported? Loved? Valued?

A partnership should multiply everything good about your life, and buffer life’s challenges.

If he is not significantly improving your life, then what’s the fucking point of him?

Thank you everyone
I think I do know it’s just not worth it.

it wasn’t and hasn’t always been like this and I have my issues to so I don’t think I can fully blame him and I think I’ve stuck with it hoping it’ll all be ok and plus I know this sounds a bit pathetic but I suppose I don’t want to be on my own.
I just can’t keep giving though and getting nothing back
thank you for all your kind words xx

I feel like im not even sure why we are together other than we love each other

I don't understand this. Why do you love him? What does that mean to you?