Everyone copes differently but it’s lonely

[Mama0109]

Whenever something happens between me and my partner, he changes and stops showing me any love/affection etc we won’t even have conversation unless the toddler is awake until he feels ok from whatever it may be. I mean he won’t even tell me “love you too” if I say it. I’m a very different being I get over stuff quicker even if it continues to bother me I don’t like to cause a weird uncomfortable atmosphere in the house for days but my partner does and it’s just awks. We can sit in the same room for hours for example now the toddler is asleep we will sit here silently and then I’ll feel uncomfortable and just put myself to sleep. I said love you to him yesterday and got nothing back. Bearing in mind on a normal day we probs say it over 10x. Like I understand people deal with emotions differently but idk.. it feels shitty.

Sounds abusive to me, if he’s not talking to you.

Just small talk. He said people process feelings differently

So if he needs me to pass him something he will ask well he has once. Or to change the channel if I have the remote etc just if he has to, otherwise he won’t. Unless the toddler is awake then there is some more talking to not make it a tense atmosphere but through our toddler not really directly to me. He said he doesn’t have to process feelings like me which I understand but he didn’t even says I love you too just no love or affection. Whereas I just get on with shit once something happens I can’t mope around and cause a weird atmosphere. I mean if I’m in the wrong he says he wants accountability and an apology and a hug and it would be fine and even when I do that he will continue to “cope with his emotions” by not speaking to me until he wants to. It’ll be like this until he is ready to be normal

It is abuse OP. Hes punishing you and stonewalling you.