DH needs help with alcohol

[NeedHelp000]

I know he has to want to get the help himself, he says he is but let’s see if his actions match his words.
But what are his options so I can advise and guide him?

call GP? Any services he can access himself ?

thank you in advance

See if there are services in your area. I know from trying to help a sibling that there is nothing in our area other than peer support groups but there might be more in yours.
https://www.nhs.uk/nhs-services/find-alcohol-addiction-support-services/

AA offer support to the drinker but also to their family too.
https://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org.uk/

https://alcoholchange.org.uk/help-and-support/get-help-now

https://www.drinkaware.co.uk/advice-and-support/alcohol-support-services

Hi @NeedHelp000
He should try the online AA zoom meetings, try and do as many meetings as possible. My husband is sober 7 years mainly down to meetings. Hope this helps your husband.

Put your own oxygen mask on first because you can only help your own self ultimately. Contact Al-anon and get support for your own self.

Words are cheap; its actions that count from him and if you see him not taking direct action to address the causes behind his alcoholism you know he is only paying lip service to this.

He has to want to seek help for his own self; you cannot make him do this primarily for you, it has to be for him and from him. Denial is a powerful force here and your DH seems mired in denial; alcoholics lie to themselves and to others about their dependency so very easily.

I guess it depends on the level of his drinking. He might be okay to stop by himself and maybe attend meetings, he may need to taper down or he may need more intense treatment to get him through. What level are we talking?

All the links @ItSoundsLikeADrag gave.

Al-Anon for support for yourself and meetings , meetings and more meetings for your husband. It’s a marathon but I really hope he can do it.

The first test of how serious is he, is how he goes about getting help. He he expects you to do some of it / lets you do it, then he isn't serious. And it may be used against you in future.

I've been there.

You can self refer to a lot of the NHS community drugs and alcohol services mine were excellent. AA is not for everyone. SMART recovery are very good

My DH went to the GP, who was amazing. Put him on touch with local services and counselling, and put him on meds to make him sick if he drank. Unfortunately DH only lasted 12 months sober, thought because he had managed 12 months it mea t he could drink and control it. He stopped taking the meds.

He has cut down to be fair, and only drinks once or twice a week, but I would rather it be not at all.

I can recommend contacting Al Anon for yourself, or even the Al Anon Facebook pages if you don't feel like attending meetings at present. Our life is better since I put boundaries in place, we both know where the line is

Most areas have a drug and alcohol support service you can directly refer to or be referred by the GP,it's been mentioned AA meetings a lot of people swear by it,I attended NA which is based on the 12 steps same as AA,I just could not get my head around the GOD and spirituality thing,and ended up going to smart recovery meetings,but don't forget yourself OP being with an addict can be mentally draining make sure you have support too good luck to DH and yourself

You are denying him them opportunity to prove his actions live up to his words about addressing his drinking by doing the research he should be doing for himself. By all means make suggestions but presumably he has access to the internet and can use Google too.

Seek support for yourself and accept that you are not responsible for his recovery in the same way you are not responsible for his drinking. Let him start putting the work into his own recovery