He deleted our anniversary post

[natel]

My boyfriend posted on Facebook about our 1 year anniversary. He had lots of likes and lovely comments. Today he has deleted the post.

I don't know if his daughters have said something as his younger daughter has tried to guilt trip him recently saying they don't see him anymore now he is in relationship. It is the same arrangement of meeting every 2 weeks as he did when he was single. The last few times they have told him they are too busy but he saw them midweek instead. I have never tried to stop him from seeing them.

I really wish he wouldn't post things. He told them he could not afford to take them on holiday this summer. We went away for 2 days which I paid half and I said don't post any photos online, he goes and posts everyday and his daughters saw the posts as he did not change his audience setting. It is insensitive as they just see it as he paid for his girlfriend even though I paid half and he didn't take them on holiday.

I don't post about my relationship online because I don't have time and don't want to upset people for these reasons. All my friends know I am in a relationship.
I am wondering now if his daughters have said something or an admirer has. I am not bothered if he posts about our relationship or not but deleting it comes across as though he is embarrassed about our relationship.

Maybe he's deleted it because you never put a post up? Does he have an issue that you don't post anything about him? A bit petty but just a possibility

This seems a little dodgy. Surely he wouldn’t delete it for his daughters sake, they must’ve already seen it? How along ago was the original post made?

@Pinklemons9 The post was created on Sunday and deleted today. He has photos of us on Facebook together still. I have messaged him but am awaiting his reply as he is at work where they have to lock their phones in their lockers.

He is supposed to be coming for a meal with me and my friends tonight but I honestly don't want him there right now. It has put a dampened on things. He knows I have low mood recently so doing things like this won't help.

Maybe he deleted it because he thought twice and realised that maybe it would make his daughters upset given the context around the holiday.

That said, a parent saying his is too skint to take his children away on holiday, but not being too skint to pay to go away with a partner (even if you paid half) is pretty shitty of him, and also quite sad that you simply tried to get him to not post on social media about it so the trip could be kept a secret. As a child, I'd be pretty hurt about this.

@mindutopia The problem is he won't quit smoking and I said he should do as he could have saved the money he spends in a month on cigarettes on a few days away with his daughters.

The mother refuses to take them on holiday or days out with her partner and their new children as he doesn't want her children from her previous relationship being there.

I don't think it is fair the daughters should miss out because of their parents views.

It does seem really mean that he can manage to take himself on holiday, but not his DC, particularly as his ex will not take them, for whatever reason. (He could have used his holiday money to take them on nice days out instead.)

I would not like to be with someone who cared so little for their children, frankly.

I think the social media stuff is all a bit of a red herring.

the much bigger issue is that sees his children only every 2 weeks!

How old are the kids? It seems sad for them.

@Myfabby It really concerns me he doesn't see them enough. They really need their father and they struggle with their mental health.

It isn't your job to tell him how to care for his own children , he is a grown man.

What are his good points op? I'm failing to understand why you are with him.

Ditch him. He's prioritising fags over his kids.