seperating and feel so miserable

[wornoutbyarguing]

my dp is moving out today.we have been together for 7 years and I feel so miserable,I really thought I would feel relieved.but I feel so lost .he wont work and we have a pile of debt and have spent the last 2 years arguing about everything.
although I know deep down its the right thing to do where do I go from here,
he just wants to sit on the internet all day or play on his guitar,
I have had to take resposibility for everthing,sort out the bills,sort out the kids ,play piggy in the middle with him and my son from a prevoius relationship as they argue constantly.
I feel guilty I do care for him but I dont love him.I s it normal to feel like this.
just wondered if anyone else has been here and suvived it.
thanks tara

Im going through a break up now with my not d h. I havent come out the other end yet, but just wanted to say I know it is so difficult and miserable.

Take care of yourself and your dc, Tara,

hugs

jiji (was mummoomin, but changed cause there was another moomin!)

Hi hoping to break news tonight to not dh that we are finished. All in same boat at moment. feeling scared shitless but know its for best. My dh is bad gambler so in loads of debt. Need a clean break < also have issues with prev rela kids. They never did get on . He tried to br their dad but they didnt want that WE have dd together (2) so not sure how thats gonna work. just keep going there are people out there who deserve our loyalty and devotion. I have decided not to invest any more time or energy into dh as it is waste of time. XXX lots of love to all us in mid seperation XX

Mine keeps trying to come back, like he thinks Im not really serious! Ive had the locks changed, and got a solicitor. Scary how fast things escalate.

Scared shitless sums it up. Now I have to go back to work...holy cow...dont know how Ill leave ds at nursery..

Hello, sorry you are going through this difficult and confusing time. Come and join us on the "Support thread for those contemplating or going through a split". You will not be alone.

hi and thanks to all for words of encouagement ,its amazing how many mums are going thru the same.
we have told the kids and they didnt seem very surprised,
hubby seems to be relieved about going and although it hurts like hell I think the move out might be less upsetting than I first thought.
will be nice to have the house to myself during the day and make some real concrete plans for me and the kids future,
my relatives have all rallied around and even my sister has given me some dosh to help out.so dont feel quite so alone.
thank you will stay on the support thread......{smile}