how true is this?

[TLV]

When you fall in love, it is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being in love which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.

Louis de Bernières

hmm... sounds about right to me.

Having had only 3.5 hrs sleep, i couldn't possibly comment. I'll try and make sense of that later.

That was one of the readings we had at our wedding

its calling love a "leftover"

not true

sorry he's not "its"

I can agree, when i met dp i was lovesick couldnt eat sleep etc, now after 4 years it has subsided into could i be happy without him? Probably no!

havinga twilight zone moment - watched captain corellis mandolin on dvd last night - am pretty positive this was a quote in that.

and i knew - knew it was a quote and i was going to look it up.

That's a hard question actually.

I agree and disagree.

I agree that some of the feelings - like butterflies,breathlessness etc do subside,
but i disagree with the bit about "making a decision" that seems to cold and clinical.

oooh custardo - freaky

sounds like pseudo intellectual nonsense to me.
love is a personal interpretation in my opinion and unique to each different person.

About half true, maybe. People delude themselves a lot about love, and quite a lot of marriages are about pragmatism more than sentiment, which is no bad thing as long as you know what you are doing.

think I'm going to be sick

Dont agree - for me, I would say, When it subsides, you dont notice; you're too busy being happy with your loving partner as you enjoy life both together and independently.

And if there is a pecking order for love, long-lasting love comes higher for me than falling in love.

pmsl slim

didn't louis de bernieres write captain corelli's mandolin? or am i in another twilight zone?

he did, oranges, you can put your twilight zone away for another day

I don't think dh and I ever had temporary madness - we just thought very early on that we were very well suited, and so it has proved.