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Husband is leaving me for good

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Cindy1990 · 07/09/2023 10:35

My husband and I had a fight (usual kind of fights, nothing serious) and he suddenly decided to leave me and my 4 years old daughter. I am heartbroken. I tried to convince him not to but he swore on his daughter's life that he will never come back to me. I am sad because he is not going to pay my child's kindergarden fees nor her allowance and the country in which we currently live do not respect women's rights. I feel that I need to cry so bad but I must be strong for my daughter.
I am working hard to afford her a good living. Gosh why are some men this cruel?!

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BorrowedThyme · 07/09/2023 10:36

sounds like you are better off without him.

best wishes xx

DrSbaitso · 07/09/2023 10:48

he swore on his daughter's life that he will never come back to me.

I'd ditch him for swearing anything on his child's life at all.

Have you family anywhere else? Do you have a different home country?

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Cindy1990 · 07/09/2023 10:55

DrSbaitso · 07/09/2023 10:48

he swore on his daughter's life that he will never come back to me.

I'd ditch him for swearing anything on his child's life at all.

Have you family anywhere else? Do you have a different home country?

He lives in the UK. I live in a country in middle east. He refused to take us to the UK although his daughter would have a better life and education. The reason behind his refusal is that in the UK women have rights and he has to pay for child support in case of separation unlike the country I live in.
I hope God can help me survive this trouble.
I am talking to his family so they can convince him to come back.
He is not the ideal man but I just want my daughter to get a proper life.

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Cindy1990 · 07/09/2023 11:00

Cindy1990 · 07/09/2023 10:55

He lives in the UK. I live in a country in middle east. He refused to take us to the UK although his daughter would have a better life and education. The reason behind his refusal is that in the UK women have rights and he has to pay for child support in case of separation unlike the country I live in.
I hope God can help me survive this trouble.
I am talking to his family so they can convince him to come back.
He is not the ideal man but I just want my daughter to get a proper life.

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He travels back and forth to us every 3 months.

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Whereisthelove2 · 07/09/2023 11:09

Is it possible he has a family in the UK as well?

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Cindy1990 · 07/09/2023 11:21

Whereisthelove2 · 07/09/2023 11:09

Is it possible he has a family in the UK as well?

I thought about it and have asked all his close friends. They all said No. I am just disappointed how cruel he is and how he doesn't care about leaving his daughter. She's so young and needs him.
Its heartbreaking.

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perfectcolourfound · 07/09/2023 14:23

I'm so sorry but this doesn't sound like it was a real relationship to him. For a start, he chooses to see you and your child infrequently. He doesn't treat you as his equal. He doesn't treat you with respect. You 'fight'. He threatens to leave over something small.

You will be better off without him. It might be hard financially, but it sounds like you could never rely on him anyway. This way, you will be free of the disrespectful, unkind man, and can build a happier life away from him.

Your daughter would be better off without a father who doesn't really care.

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Cindy1990 · 07/09/2023 14:42

perfectcolourfound · 07/09/2023 14:23

I'm so sorry but this doesn't sound like it was a real relationship to him. For a start, he chooses to see you and your child infrequently. He doesn't treat you as his equal. He doesn't treat you with respect. You 'fight'. He threatens to leave over something small.

You will be better off without him. It might be hard financially, but it sounds like you could never rely on him anyway. This way, you will be free of the disrespectful, unkind man, and can build a happier life away from him.

Your daughter would be better off without a father who doesn't really care.

You know... I needed to hear that. Thank you for your kind message.

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