Newly single Mum with no support

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Hi MN
I feel the loneliest I’ve ever felt! Left Ex H a month ago, was a SAHM so I’ve no job. We have a 2 year old who has a place at Nursey when he’s 3. I’d never planned to be a single mum, and now ex H is even threatening me that if I don’t get back with him he’ll walk out on me and the child, and give Minimum CSA. I find myself begging him not to walk. Without him, it will literally just be me and 2 year old. I’ve one friend who has a newborn, but they are married, settled And live a couple hours away. I hate to put this on her.

where the hell do I go from here? I find myself needing some guidance and support? I’m still trying to do the daily SAHM things but the evenings are just empty. My heart is achy and heavy and I can’t even eat properly. Keep telling myself this will get better, especially when dc is in Nursey and I have a routine, find a job etc. has anyone else gone through this?

Firstly, big hugs, you’re clearly finding yourself completely at sea with this and the prospect of being alone can be a scary one.
However, your Ex Husband threatening you to get back with him is frankly laughable; what sort of response does he expect that to illicit from you? You’ve clearly left for good reason and he’s simply reinforcing that. Male anger and control when they believe they are ‘losing’ is sadly all too common, but it’s a sign in my mind that they are feeling very insecure, vulnerable and out of control. They try and use anger, threats and scare tactics to get what they want so that they can feel better and hopefully put you back in your compliant place 🙄
I’m not personally up to speed with rules on CSA but is that not agreed via the courts as part of divorce? Get yourself some good professional advice there so you know exactly where you stand. That should put some perspective on these attempts at scaring you with his threats.
You need to start building your own network now; remove your reliance on him, it will give you power. Get a job and keep yourself busy, you’ll meet new people on the way. It will get better once you’re clear in your head where you stand and you gain your independence. Don’t let him do a number on your head, he’s just trying to control you and he’s really not that powerful OP and knows it x